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Give Up Negative Self Talk! … Choose Supportive Self-Love Talk

What if you could give up negative self-talk? Watch this self-love divine spark for your heart

Here’s the straight self-love truth..

Just like giving up any negative toxic habit – like biting your finger nails, smoking, or eating junk food – you can CHOOSE to not be a negative self-talker.

I took the stand to give up the negative chatter 6 years ago, and it changed my entire life. It wasn’t that the self doubt, self criticism, self-induced stress disappeared completely – although it did diminish ALOT! That crazy mind buzz just no longer controlled me, derailed me, drove me to make bad choices for myself.

First, I had to make the choice. I had to get to the point in my life and in my relationship with myself where I had had ENOUGH! Where I was sick and tired of the effects the negative self-talk was having on me. Wasting my energy. Making me feel bad and like I wasn’t doing enough no matter how much I did. Pressuring me to work more, work harder, or making me feel guilty if I took a break. Leading me to sell myself out or disregard my needs in order to make another person happy. It was exhausting. And I just decided it was stupid to do this to myself. So just like I had quit smoking at the age of 30, and quit having toxic relationships at the age of 31, and quit drinking diet pop at the age of 35, I figured, why not quit negative self talk. So I did. And it stuck!

How did I give up negative self-talk?

Well to start, any time I found myself in a negative self talk situation, I would just say outloud I GAVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK… I DON’T DO THIS ANYMORE!  And I would say it out loud again and again – as if I was literally talking to myself, and I was! I was telling that inner force who wields that heavy hard hand – I call her the Inner Mean Girl, or Inner Mean Dude for boys – that I was no longer a negative self-talker. Just like I was no longer a smoker, so if someone offered me a cigarette, I could decline because I just didn’t smoke. Or I could choose ice tea at lunch instead of diet pop, because I wasn’t a diet pop drinker.

So today, I am inviting YOU to make that first step by CHOOSING TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK. To quit being a negative self-talker and to choose to be a supportive self-love talker instead!

GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK, CHOOSE SELF LOVE #BKIND2U

End Negative Self talk

 

 

Which leads us to the second part of the process of giving up negative self-talk – you need self love super power tools.

Like I said, it wasn’t that it just went away completely, so I had to develop new ways to deal with the negative banter when it came up. A simple one is the one I mentioned above… You just simply say outloud as many times as you need “I don’t do this negative self-talk thing any longer!  I am just doing it! I choose supportive self-love talk!”

Then to get the supportive self-love talk moving through your mind, here’s what you do — put your hand on your heart… close your eyes and take a breath… and ask yourself, “What are the words I need to hear right now? If I was being a best friend to myself, what would I say?” And then say those words to you, starting with your first name (you always have to start with your first name) … FIRST NAME, << the words your heart needs to hear so it can then inform your mind to settle down and be supportive and kind to you! >>.

Let’s try it here on the BLOG so you can practice – and I will super power your post with more self-love talk!

Write this
1. EXPOSE THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK – where is fear, doubt, pressure, stress, criticism showing up for you?
2. TAKE THE STAND TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK & CHOOSE SELF LOVE TALK – “I choose to give up negative self talk!” “I choose to embrace supportive self love talk!”
3. WRITE THE SELF LOVING WORDS YOU NEED TO HEAR FROM YOURSELF! I call this a ‘love stream’

 

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I will go first —

I’ve been having a little negative self talk pressuring me into some of my old achievement junkie patterns, eating up the spaciousness and harmony I need in my life.
I, Christine Arylo, CHOOSE TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK. I CHOOSE TO EMBRACE SELF LOVE TALK.
Love stream… Christine, you are doing enough! You are doing more than enough. You can have all the spaciousness you need to enjoy your life, walk on the beach, do your yoga, have fun and serve a billion people love. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself. In fact the more love you choose for yourself, the more harmony you will create and the more people you will touch.

 

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Okay, now your turn…. be real about where the negative chatter is showing up … take the promise to give up negative self talk… love stream out the words you need to hear from yourself! Post here on the self-love blog….

 

And then remember to use your self love super power tool – the SELF LOVE SOAK – every morning by telling yourself the words you need to fill your heart with love, to choose supportive self love talk first thing in the morning before you ever get out of bed!

>>AND JOIN US ON SELF LOVE DAY – FEB 13th – live in Los Angeles or via Livestream in your home! For the Self Love Super Power Circle –

where thousands of people will band together to give up negative self talk!  SIGN UP AT WWW.SELFLOVEDAY.COM<<

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Start Your New Year Devoted to Yourself … 3 questions to make goals that make you happy

Watch this video & get the 3 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE – its a new year self-love meditation!

It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.

I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, even with my 11 year old goddess daughter – she loved it!

The game is based on 3 core questions that help you connect to what YOU truly desire to do, so you create a year devoted to your happiness and success instead of creating more stress for yourself, or creating goals that just make it so you have more to do!

Here are the inquiries… tune into your heart and ask:

1. What do I desire to START?
2. What do I desire to STOP?
3. Who do I desire to CONTINUE?

Then to bring these to life take a stand to devote this year to YOUR HAPPINESS and SUCCESS!

STATE HERE ON THE SELF LOVE BLOG 

“In Devotion to MYSELF,” in 2015, I choose to START… STOP… CONTINUE…

Here’s mine….

In 2015, In devotion to myself, I choose to…

START writing thought provoking, heart opening articles that shine a light on the tremendous amount of pressure we all feel… and to shine a light on a new way of being that is more sustainable for us all.

STOP working through the beautiful sunsets right out side my door – they are too beautyful to miss!

CONTINUE creating self-love art that I love and that opens other peoples hearts

Now your turn… post it here on the blog.

IN DEVOTION TO MYSELF, I CHOOSE TO
START…
STOP…
CONTINUE…

**POST IT UP AND I’LL SEND YOU SOME EXTRA SELF LOVE SUPER POWER AND PRAYERS!**

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Self Care for the New Year – Set Yourself Up to Be Happy & Healthy Now (Dont Wait til Jan!)



I have a question for you – what if you could start the new year, come Jan 1st, feeling better about your body, feeling good about your bank account balance and feeling energized and full, ready to welcome in the coming year (true self care)? Would this be way better than feeling stressed about losing weight, paying off debt and getting things in order after a crazy holiday season?

What if you could make choices NOW that ensured a happy and healthy start of 2015 so you didn’t have to make news years resolutions that you don’t keep?

You can avoid all those extra pounds, all that extra stress and all that guilt about spending too much if you just take a few self-love, self-care steps now.

I taped this divine spark for your heart, about 40 days before the new year, before we roll into the holiday season, so you can do just that.

So watch the video and consider taking on the simple but mighty self-love practice I share with you that can make all the difference to how you feel come Jan 1st.

My holiday wish for you is that you can end this year with a SURPLUS of energy, health (physical and financial) and happiness instead of in a defecit in which you feel like you have to make up for all the EXCESS spending, eating, traveling,etc. you did.


And that means over the next 40 days or so til Jan 2nd – I invite you to do two things…

ONE: ONLY DO ENOUGH… CHOOSE ENOUGH INSTEAD of EXCESS:
In the moments when you feel the stress or pressure rising, or you feel yourself about to make a choice that doesn’t honor your needs, note you are about to choose EXCESS, and instead ask yourself, ‘What would enough be?” And do that!
This will allow you to still have sweetness and pleasure without tipping over the scales or draining your bank account or energy accounts. For example: Instead of 5 sugar cookies, 1. Instead of 50 greeting cards, 10. Instead of visiting every relative, a few. Instead of 10 boxes of holiday decorations, 2.

Really love, just do enough and LEAVE THE EXCESS BEHIND… you’ll feel so much better. And have more fun!


TWO: TUNE INTO YOUR HEART AND GET CLEAR ABOUT WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

In the Divine Spark for your Heart video, I taped a short but mighty meditation to help you tune into the 3 things that are most important for YOU. Often the reason you end up in excess, spending too much time and money and over consuming is that you aren’t connected to or clear about what really matters to you. Take this short pause to ask your heart what is and then make a promise to make your choices accordingly for the rest of the year… no matter what. True self care … Keeping the promises of self-love to never settle for less than your heart desires, and to STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF even if that means disappointing another.

THREE: POST UP YOUR HEART’S 3 DESIRES HERE ON THE BLOG WITH YOUR PROMISE TO SET YOURSELF UP TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY AS YOU START THE NEW YEAR BY CHOOSING ENOUGH NOT EXCESS AND BY STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF!

I will send special love to you and your self love stand here on the blog – a holiday gift from my heart to yours.

Here, I will go first…
“I choose to set myself up to be happy and healthy as I end 2014 and start 2015.
My heart desires to
1. Have plenty of space to rest.
2. Have plenty of space to create.
3. To spend time with the people that I am closest to.
I promise myself to CHOOSE ENOUGH, INSTEAD OF EXCESS.”

Okay – now your turn. Post here on the blog your promise to set yourself up to be happy and healthy… and your three heart’s desires for this holiday season.. ending with the promise to choose enough, not excess. I’ll come by with some love later!

Great Mother Love Meditation – When life is too much, do this.

Watch this Great Mother Love video and meditation & surrender what’s weighing on your heart

I don’t know why we think when we grow up that we are supposed to be all strong, and have it all together. That when we become parents or responsible adults that we won’t get scared or confused. That when life is hard we should just buck up and push through, instead of doing what a little kid would do – have a little cry, wrap up in a blankie, and ask it’s mom to make it all better with a kiss, a hug and her magic wand.

Now that’s what I am talking about – Great Mother Love.

We all need it, yet most of us have no idea how to get it.

You need Great Mother Love in the times when life feels like it’s too much… like it’s is too hard… like there’s not enough… like the burden is just too heavy… like you might even want to give up and quit.

From a spiritual perspective, these intense times are all good. It just means the shadow is coming up to be healed and transmuted into light. But from a human perspective, while you are wading through the shadow, no matter how much light is promised at the end of the tunnel, what you really want to do is crawl into bed, wrap the covers over you and come out when it’s all over?

But you can’t. People need things from you, you have to go to work, all that stuff that’s contributing to the stress in the first place!

So what can you crawl into and wrap yourself up with? Great Mother Love! Great Mother Love, when you tune into it and open to receive it is like receiving a big huge hug and kiss from the divine, or the best mother that you could ever imagine who has the power to take it all away and make it better… a place where you can just lay your head on her shoulder and let it all go… and SURRENDER all that you don’t want to carry any longer.

So how do you get to this Great Mother Love? Well that’s what this video, meditation and surrender stuff is all about.

Let’s alleviate some of this fear, doubt, stress, anxiety shall we and get you connected to Great Mother Love, shall we?

Follow these steps.

1. Watch the divine spark video I taped for you, which includes the Great Mother Love meditation

2. Give over to her what you want to surrender right now. The burden, responsiblity, fear, anxiety, and be specific. Really give it to her and let her heart take the weight off your heart.

3. Post your SURRENDER PRAYER up here on the self-love blog “I SURRENDER… And I will post back and witness and super charge your prayer.

4. Open up to receive Great Mother Love from all the places and people it shows up through, including yourself. Great Mother Love feels like caring, nurturing, embracing, sweetness, nourishing, warm, unconditional, empty of all fear. Include it in your post by saying “I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING GREAT MOTHER LOVE!)

Here’s my surrender prayer to the Great Mother

I SURRENDER THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING THE ONE IN MY FAMILY THAT HAS TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT, TO BE THE ONE WHO MAKES SURE ITS ALL TAKEN CARE OF AND WE HAVE EVERYTHING WE NEED. I AM TIRED OF TAKING IT ALL ON AND I SURRENDER THIS BURDEN! TAKE IT GREAT MOTHER. I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING YOUR GREAT MOTHER LOVE.

Okay now your turn! Post on the self-love blog

Really let the energy flow and FEEL IT as you write it – remember it’s your surrender prayer, let it go and open up that heart to great mother love, let her divinity take on what your humanity could never hold.