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Stop Comparing Yourself To Others – Self-love super power practice

As I was writing my new self-love book on that super duper destructive force known as the Inner Mean Girl, or Inner Mean Dude, this week, I got SUPER inspired to write you a self love letter and make you a video about one of the most toxic, non-self loving habits we have as humans…

COMPARISON!

I’ve been watching people all around me, fabulous people, comparing themselves to other people, or who they think they should be, and then feeling like crap about themselves… and then making choices that don’t honor themselves.

And it makes me so sad every time I see a person reject themselves…

Because when you compare your body, bank account, business, relationship status, whatever, to others (or some crazy expectation), the truth is, you reject yourself… and it doesn’t take a brain scientist to prove that rejecting yourself is no good.

Comparing yourself to others will slow you down, steal your joy, and rob you of the life you are trying to create for yourself … and c’mon you just don’t have time to tolerate that anymore, especially given it’s the summer of love ☺

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And I get it… I used to compare myself A LOT. I think most of us do. We just don’t talk about it, or stop it. So the cycle continues.

Which is why today, I invite you to stop this crazy insane habit of comparison using the self love super power process and self acceptance perspective I provide in the video.

Because really, you are too beautiful, too special, too lovable to commit such an act on yourself. Being you is awesome, when you love yourself enough to believe it.

So take this daring act of self love

  1. Watch the video and make the choice to GIVE UP THE HABIT OF COMPARISON (just like you’d give up smoking or eating food that is bad for you.)
  2. Take the self-love antidote of turning comparison into self-love through inspiration that I share with you and use it in your life everytime you find yourself craving to compare
  3. Here on this Blog, right now, take a RADICAL ACT OF SELF ACCEPTANCE and say specifically WHAT you will stop comparing yourself about.

Here’s a few heart self-love starters

I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING THE SIZE OF MY THIGHS TO OTHER PEOPLE’S LEGS.

I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING THE SIZE OF MY FACEBOOK FAN PAGE TO OTHER PEOPLES’ FAN PAGES.

I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING HOW I AM DOING IN MY LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S ACCOMPLISHMENTS.
And then for good self love mojo, you can say this self acceptance Love Mantra outloud or write it here on the blog.

I LOVE WHO I AM EXACTLY AS I AM. I AM MYSELF. AND THAT IS ENOUGH.

 

You can learn more about Inner Mean Girl Reform School at www.innermeangirl.com and get a free transformation starter kit too!

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You Are Doing & Achieving Alot! Do This Self Love Practice So You Believe it!

This morning I awoke with the sun beaming into my bed, the water of Bainbridge Island glistening out my window, and a sense of accomplishment – and it felt so good! After two weeks in Canada and an mini-retreat yesterday, and this four month Team Love Tour, which ends next Sunday in Seattle, I am activating one of my self-love habits that has done wonders for my old achievement junkie habits, and self-care killers.

And I am inviting you with this Love Letter to join me. This love letter is all about you really feeling your self-worth.

The benefit — you’ll feel better, gain power to give yourself a break, and most of all, really SEE yourself for the brilliant being you are.

Sound good? It is.. Powerful self love!

Read on…

Here’s a self love truth.

You have already accomplished ALOT, really. I know that just in the past week or month, that you have achieved a whole handful of things that you haven’t stopped to really RECEIVE.

And when you don’t stop to receive, acknoweldge and FEEL what has occurred, what you have created, caused or experienced, it’s like it never happened.

So you never feel like enough, like you are doing enough, or like your dreams are happening.

I’ll never forget when I learned this lesson (thanks to my friend visionary artist Shiloh Sophia McCloud who inspires me to love myself all the time) – it changed my life, my relationship to success, and it gave me the power to slow down and feel GOOD about it.

Watch this weeks love letter where I share a simple but mighty process that will get you really FEELING all that you have done and accomplished, so you can give yourself a break + really FEEL how much you matter, and enough you are.

AND THEN TAKE ACTION RIGHT HERE ON THIS SELF LOVE BLOG…

1. NAME WHAT YOU HAVE ACCOMPLISHED… right here in public so I can, we can witness it, and it will be MORE TRUE.

2. CLAIM IT SO YOU CAN FEEL IT… See and state the IMPACT of what you have done and how it has affected YOU and the PEOPLE its touched …

3. OPEN YOUR HEART TO RECEIVE IT… Really give yourself time and space – a day at least to really let this come into your heart!