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Start Your New Year Devoted to Yourself … 3 questions to make goals that make you happy

Watch this video & get the 3 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE – its a new year self-love meditation!

It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.

I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, even with my 11 year old goddess daughter – she loved it!

The game is based on 3 core questions that help you connect to what YOU truly desire to do, so you create a year devoted to your happiness and success instead of creating more stress for yourself, or creating goals that just make it so you have more to do!

Here are the inquiries… tune into your heart and ask:

1. What do I desire to START?
2. What do I desire to STOP?
3. Who do I desire to CONTINUE?

Then to bring these to life take a stand to devote this year to YOUR HAPPINESS and SUCCESS!


“In Devotion to MYSELF,” in 2015, I choose to START… STOP… CONTINUE…

Here’s mine….

In 2015, In devotion to myself, I choose to…

START writing thought provoking, heart opening articles that shine a light on the tremendous amount of pressure we all feel… and to shine a light on a new way of being that is more sustainable for us all.

STOP working through the beautiful sunsets right out side my door – they are too beautyful to miss!

CONTINUE creating self-love art that I love and that opens other peoples hearts

Now your turn… post it here on the blog.



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Self Empowerment Blog: How to Make Your Dreams Come True

There’s a lot of misunderstandings about dreams that can mess up your manifesting. Watch this video & get the divine download on how dreams really do come true. Choose self empowerment, choose self-love.

I have some questions for you love…

What is your Sacred Dream for the World?

What is your Sacred Dream for Yourself this year?

And are you going about dreaming in the ‘right’ way?

I used to think that dreams happened in the future, that I had to pursue them, manifest them, make them happen, or just get lucky. And that caused a lot of pressure, disappointment and frankly hard work.

There is SO much misunderstanding about how dreams really work — information telling you to make vision boards, to apply the Law of Attraction, to manifest your soul mate or more money in simple 7 steps, or whatever as if dreams are some magic trick that pop out of a hat. As if you just have the right thoughts and focus hard enough, you’ll get exactly what you want. And it just doesn’t work that way.

It’s not that the Law of Attraction, or vision boards or desiring a soul mate or money is incorrect, it’s the energy, the ego, and the attachment, and the partial truths and over-simplification that lead to misunderstandings that can lead you into a lot of disappointment, stress, and pressure around your dreams becoming your reality.

Self Love quoteSo when I thought about what I could share with you this week – as I myself dream and watch my sacred dream for the world and for myself come true – I knew I had to share 3 pieces of wisdom that can straighten out misunderstandings about dreams and manifesting … so the divine flow can move through you. Self empowerment is all about being the queen or king of your own domain, and being the monarch of your own dreams (with a divine partnership of course!)

With right understanding about sacred dreams, I’ve watched my dream to co-create a world rooted in self-love, where children and adults can always source love from inside themselves grow… from one party in a friend’s house in Chicago in 2006 to the international Self-Love Day – Feb 13th – which last year touched over 41 countries, tens of thousands of people with 800 people throwing self-love parties… a self-love concert we video-streamed around the world … and super-powered self-love retreats… all of which we will be occurring again this year (and you are invited!!!)

Watch this Love Letter video and clear the way for your sacred dream for the world and for yourself this year to come in. And then put Self Love Day on your calendar and choose how you will participate this year!

Post your Sacred Dream For the World and Your Sacred Dream for Yourself for this year, here and I’ll witness, bless it and send you divine love.

Here, I’ll start — ‘My sacred dream for the world is that we live in a world in which every child born is born connected to love and stays connected to love – never losing the thread of love or the feeling that they are loved.” “My sacred dream for myself in 2015 is that I live in a home that is a beautiful, spacious, love filled retreat home AND that I travel the world sharing the message of love and experiencing the love and beauty this world and its people have to offer.”

Okay, now your turn… post here now.

And remember — I’d LOVE to see you in Wine Country for the Self Love Retreat… it was SO Much fun last year that we are doing it again! Go to www.SelfLoveRetreat.com

And also… you can host a self love circle yourself in your home!! This year we are taking a stand to END NEGATIVE SELF TALK! Go here to sign up – we will send you a complete Self Love Circle Kit! and you  join a legion of Love Ambassadors who are starting a revolution to end negative self talk and choose self love talk! Think how much happier we will all be!. www.JoinTeamLove.com

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Start Your Year from Self Love: 4 ?s to Making Heart & Soul Goals, not pressured-filled goals

Watch this video & get the 4 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE!

It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.

I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, and last night we had a Dream Party where we all played it and then painted our heart and soul desires on our windows! And now I will share it with you (window painting is optional).

The game is based on 4 core questions that help you get into your heart and soul DESIRES (desire means “from the stars” – in other words you co-create with Spirit instead of from want, lack or fear).

Here are the questions:

1. What do you desire to DO in 2014? (these are actions you desire to take)
2. What do you desire to HAVE in 2014? (these are things you are in relationship to – people, material things)
3. Who do you desire to BE in 2014? (this is about who you CHOOSE to be in the world this year)
4. What do you desire to FEEL in 2014 ? (choose three words that culiminate how you want to feel – your heart and soul work on the feeling level)

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To bring these to life say them out loud with a friend, or get pieces of paper and free flow write the answers, using the questions as statements —

“In 2014, I desire to DO… ”

“In 2014, I desire to HAVE…”

“In 2014, I desire to BE…”

“In 2014,  I desire to FEEL” — and before you talk or write, put your hand on your heart, close your eyes, take a breath and then just write or say what comes — no thinking it, FEEL it or SEE it… and let it emerge. The best is when you just let the energy rip out of you talking or writing and YOU surprise yourself.



A few important self-love and spiritual pieces of wisdom

1. Use the word DESIRE not words like “like to have” “want to do” – want comes from lack, like from a place of not deserving – that is so not self-love! So when you state these desires, it’s about coming from wholeness and enoughness. You already have access to all of this inside of you and through your connection to spirit. Desire means ‘From the stars’ so using this word invokes the truth that you are A. Aligning with Divine Will and B. Co Creating with the Divine. This isn’t about magical thinking or hopeful manifesting, but getting yourself into alignment with your heart and soul’s wisdom. When you do that, you create your year instead of pressure fill it.

2. January is the DREAMING TIME, February the Seeding Time – so play with these questions all month/moon long. This January holds a full cycle of the moon, which from a divine feminine perspective is really awesome and powerful. because when we create in conjunction with the moon cycle, we create realities that make harmony in our lives instead of stress.

Let’s get the desire pump primed — choose one of the 4 self love questions and STATE HERE ON THE BLOG one desire – “In 2014, I desire to Do… Have… Be… Feel… —

Here’s one of mine… it’s a DO DESIRE…  “In 2014, I desire to take a group of women to Italy for a Divine Feminine Immersion – a week of absolutely activating their Feminine Super Powers to Receive & Achieve instead of overgive and overdo… and then I desire to stay in Italy and the coasts of Greece to travel and have my own personal experience for the rest of the month!”

Now your turn… post it here on the blog.

And remember, the Inner Mean Girl 40-day cleanse starts on January 12th – clear your mind of toxins like Comparison, Guilt and Fear… Go to www.InnerMeanGirlCleanse.com for the divine details!

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Choose Self Love: Stop Tolerating What Doesn’t Support You


Today I am writing you from the road as Noah and I make the trek to Northern California where we will spend the summer with good friends, writing, creating and playing. And I am feeling so full of gratitude for having a relationship and a lifestyle that really aligns to the truth of my heart and soul.

And it always hasn’t been that way.

There was the verbally abusive relationship I tolerated for 14 years, because I was afraid to lose love.

The house I hung onto for at least three years too long because of the security I thought it gave me.

And in the past few weeks, I’ve talked to SO many people who have dreams for their lives… but that are TOLERATING situations, beliefs, and relationships that keep them from what they really want. And that is not self love.

My question to you is…

What are you tolerating?

We tolerate people and situations for way past their expiration date because we falsely believe that’s how it has to be…

or because we are afraid…

or because we haven’t surrendered control to a bigger power.

And so my other question for you this week is…

Are you willing to stop tolerating circumstances that don’t serve and support your heart and soul, and start empowering yourself to be the king or queen of your life? Are you willing to take a stand for self love.

If yes, then take the three step transformation process in the video and then boldly claim what you are not tolerating any longer here…

Lean in to your self-honesty branch of self love and answer these questions…

Step 1.
What am I tolerating?

Step 2. What is tolerating this costing me?

Step 3. What is the truth?

Step 4. What is ONE small but mighty action I can take to step forward into the truth?

Then write here, so we can witness and super power your stand…

I will NO LONGER TOLERATE… (insert what you are tolerating)
I CHOOSE… (insert your mighty action)

So for example… I will NO LONGER TOLERATE having friends who don’t really support me. I choose to receive support from people who can support me instead of wishing others would or could.