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Self Love Promise: Never Settle for Less than Your Heart and Soul Desire

One of the five foundational self love promises is to NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR HEART AND SOUL DESIRE… are you keeping this promise to yourself?

Watch this video and press pause on the outside world to tune into your inner world and do a check in with your heart.

Most of us never slow down enough to truly tune into our hearts so we have no idea what it truly desires. And sometimes when we do know what it desires we are too scared to actually admit that we desire it. We feel selfish, like it’s too much. Or we feel like it’s impossible or impractical so we just stuff the desire down and get on with our rational lives, settling for less than our heart desire, and in the process letting ourselves down, which is so not self-loving.

The self-love truth is that if you can FEEL it in your heart, then desiring it can only be a good thing that creates more goodness and more love for the world. Even if it’s big. Even if it seems alot. Even if other people have judgments about it.

The test is to make sure the desire truly comes from your heart and soul, and not your ego, which NEEDS and WANTS things to make you feel safe, enough and like you belong.

How do you do name and claim your heart desire?

Well to start…

1. Watch the video and listen to your heart
– and let my words touch your heart, and then listen to what it tells you – you may be surprised!

2. Two, when you state your desire out loud and write it down so you can see it use the words “I DESIRE” instead of I WANT –
want denotes lack, like you are not whole without this thing. And when acting in alignment with your heart, you’ve got to do it from a place of you are whole already. For example, saying “I want to be famous” (ego) is different than “I desire to shine as bright as I can, to be the star I am, so that my love and expression can light up this world. I desire to be a shining star whose light people from around the world see and are inspired by.” Or saying, “I want a soul mate so I can be loved” is saying that you are not loved already, which you are. Instead, you may very well desire a partner to share your life with, so “I desire a partner to share my full life with” denotes you already know your life is full before he/she shows up.

And…

3. After you watch this video – claim your current heart’s desire… then EXCLAIM in here, right here on the self-love blog… I will be here to witness it and you and fill it up with the love and light of the full moon!

Me first…
“My heart and soul SO desire to create a fabulous, inspiring line of self-love clothing that millions of people around the world put on their body that reminds them every time they wear it that they are SOOOOOO loved.”

Okay your turn… post it here… and then keep your self love promise to open your heart to receive it. You don’t need to know how or when, you just have to be open to receive the love in whatever expression the divine has in store for you.

You have done enough

Are You Pushing Yourself Too Hard?

Where you pushing yourself too hard… and creating unhappiness for yourself? Watch the video and reset your expectations – what would be enough??

You have a goal. Something important to you. Something you said yes to creating, doing, achieving because you believed it would make you happy. And so you go on your way to making that goal a reality, and then something shifts. You realize consciously or maybe not consciously that to reach said goal, you are going to have to push yourself to make it. Work hard. Cancel dates. Put pressure on yourself. And the thing you were doing to make you happy is now making you unhappy.

I’ve been doing this all week with my upcoming book about reforming Inner Mean Girls – pushing myself to get it all done in the next four days even though it’s not due for 6 more weeks. Uh, I think my Inner Mean Girl has been hanging on the couch with me!!

The truth is that while there are moments we need to push hard, those should be few and far between.

Your main way of operating your life should NOT be pushing yourself so hard.

Not if you are working in alignment with what is truly best for you, and what the divine had in store for you.

Why does it happen then? You make up these mental pictures or thoughts in your mind about what you should be able to do, and how fast you should be able to do it. And then push hard to get there. But what if… instead of pushing hard and driving yourself to what you think you should be able to do, you stopped, reassessed and did ENOUGH.

No more. No less. Just enough.

My friend Sam Bennett, who wrote this great book called GET IT DONE – without having to exhaust yourself to do it! – calls this going for the “C” instead of the A++ — which my achiever has a really hard time with. But my Inner Wisdom knows is spot on.

To make this work for me, I apply self love and my mantra I AM ENOUGH by asking myself the powerful question,”What would enough look like?” And then I give myself permission to do that. I can’t do the C but I can do ENOUGH!

Today I share it with you so you can stop pushing yourself so hard! And reclaim your happiness around the thing you decided to do to make happiness!!

Watch the video and then here on the blog, ask yourself the question, “WHAT WOULD ENOUGH LOOK LIKE?” and then take your self-love enoughness stand
1. I am pushing myself too hard to…
2. Enough would look like…
3. I give myself permission to …
4. And then claim it THAT IS ENOUGH!!

I’ll go first:
I am pushing myself too hard to finish all 9 chapters of my book in the next four days, even though the manuscript isn’t due for 6 more weeks. Enough would look like me having 6 chapters done really well and tight so I don’t have to go back to them. I give myself permission to only complete 6 chapters before I leave my writing retreat, trusting that all will be done in divine timing. THAT IS ENOUGH!

Now your turn! Post here on the blog…

And remember you are invited to join me to really take make this a YEAR OF ENOUGHNESS — to break habits that keep you from the compassion, care, pleasure, all that good self love. You can join me at the Love Club for a year of self-love! Check it out, www.JoinTheLoveClub.com

you are enough

Please Stop Stressing Yourself Out! Find the pressure point you’re holding on yourself

Watch this video to find the ONE BIG GNARLY PRESSURE POINT you are holding on yourself, and then follow me through a process to release it. Then share your stand with me on the blog

Two days ago, sitting on a couch talking to one of my soul sisters, Christine Hassler, about this crazy pressure I was feeling even though I was sitting in one of the most serene beautiful places on earth 100 feet from the sea, I had a HUGE epiphany about what is causing you, me and every woman (and man) I know un-needed stress.

Stress that you literally have the ability to alleviate if you know where to look, how to find the pressure point causing you unnecessary pain, running that judgmental voice in your head who loves to push you and pressure you with words like…

“You should be doing more…”

“Why aren’t you…”

These two phrases alone I am sure are behind the wrinkles,the extra weight, the facts that 1 in 4 women will die of heart disease, twice as many women than men are on anti-depressants, or the reality that most of us feel overwhelmed and exhausted a lot of the time.

So in honor of the international day of women this month, I am saying ENOUGH to this I am not enough b.s. … I am saying NO to Not-Enoughness and declaring 2014 as the Year of ENOUGHNESS.

Wanna join me?

mantra self love enough

Declare here, right now that You are enough. That you’ve done enough. That you don’t have to pressure yourself to do more? That there are other, more self-loving ways, to motivate yourself?

Good! Now that we have that cleared up, What do you do???

Well you start by watching this week’s love letter… I will run you through the short but mighty process I used to identify the big gnarly pressure point causing undue stress on me, and show you how to find your gnarly unnecessary pressure point and release it.

Then, here on the blog, release the pressure point by 1. Saying how you are putting this pressure on yourself. 2. Telling the truth AND then 3. Take a stand for being and doing enough right now (in caps!) I will witness you, as if you are right here with me on the couch – making this a year of ENOUGHNESS!

Here I will go first.

I am putting pressure on myself to be out in the world speaking right now. The truth is that I am exactly where I need to be, writing at the sea and talking to people through the internet and phone right now. I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

Okay your turn…

I am putting pressure on myself to…
The truth is…
I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

Whoo hoo!! Can’t wait to high five you and your post.

And remember, if you want more support on sticking to this, and you still haven’t joined The Love Club, you can still join for the entire year at the special year rate but only through the end of March. www.JointheLoveClub.com xoxox

Imagine A World of Self-Love – What is Self-Love?

Watch this inspiring powerful 3 minute video to FEEL why SELF-LOVE is SO important to YOU and those you love. Let the video reconnect with the LOVE you have inside yourself, for the beautiful girl, woman, you are.

And then join us in the self-love movement to reclaim the real definition of self-love, by posting YOUR DEFINITION of self-love here on the self-love blog.

Why?

Can you believe that is what the dictionary defines self-love as? Right from dictionary.com – self love is “conceit, vainty and narcissicsm” or “excessive regard for one’s own advantage.”It’s no wonder we have such a hard time CHOOSING the self-loving act for ourselves.

You’ve been conditioned at a very deep subconscious level to believe giving love to yourself selfish, and being called selfish in our society is like being branded with a scarlet letter.

Painting by Love Ambassador Sue Bevins www.JoinTeamLove.com

Painting by Love Ambassador Sue Bevins www.JoinTeamLove.com

When I first read this definition of self-love after my first book Choosing ME Before WE was published, I about fell out of my chair. I couldn’t believe my eyes and sadly it made all the sense of why when I would get comments from people like, ‘Self love is hippy dippy.’ ‘I can’t take care of myself first, that would be selfish.’

Or why when I would go speak at colleges or conferences smart women and girls would be totally with me when I talked about self-esteem, but when I started talking about self-LOVE they would get nervous, shrink in their seats, fidget. And it made me so sad, and mad.

Sad because… Why is love when it’s directed towards yourself any different than when you direct it to another? It’s not. Love is love. And we all know that loving other people isn’t selfish, it’s beautiful. And so is loving yourself.

And mad because… The self-esteem message we’ve been given that we can do and be anything isn’t the pancea for happiness, in fact it’s stressing most of us out… and not addressing the deeper parts. Smart women and girls (and men and boys too) are still having abusive relationships, still starving themselves, criticizing themselves, and pressuring themselves to live into some kind of unsustainable reality (did you know that girls today have stress symptoms once only found in 50 year old men… and that 1 in 4 women will die of heart disease, and that 70% of disease can be traced to stress?)

Since I couldn’t locate the person in charge of creating such harmful definitions (who is this person anyway??), I decided to take matters in my own hands and start a revolution of self-love — I made a movie, founded the international day of self-love and created very tangible ways to make LOVE for yourself something real for yourself, your children and others you love.

Today in honor of self-love day this Thursday (Feb 13th) in today’s letter, I invite you to join me in this revolution to IMAGINE A WORLD OF SELF LOVE and join in RECLAIMING THE REAL DEFINITION of SELF LOVE, i want to hear from you and blanket the world with the truth of self-love together.

Post your definition of self-love here and I’ll take all these definitions to create a piece of art that reflects what self-love REALLY IS!

For example, from Madly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend, page 47 – “Self love is the unconditional love and respect that you have for yourself that is so deep, so solid, so unwavering that you only choose situations and relationships – including the one with yourself – that reflect that same unconditional love and respect.”

Now your turn… post here. And i’ll send you some love back + include you in the art piece.

And remember to RSVP for the Self Love Day Party, video streamed to your living room – my gift to you. wwww.SelfLoveParty.com