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Choose Relationships that Support You to Soar … that’s self-love!

A wise man once said to me, the relationships in your life can either be like wind beneath your wings supporting you to soar, or they can be like heavy weights that drag you down and keep you from flying free. I married that smart man – Noah Martin – and in the process have created not just a marriage that has supported me to do my great work and live my life’s dreams, but created an entire web of love that has allowed me to step forward past fear and uncertainty to go for my dreams full out! Now that is self-love.

Today, in honor of my marriage anniversary to said wise man (that’s he and I on our wedding day nine years ago), I taped this divine spark from my heart to invite you to feel the gratitude for the love you have around you that supports you so well… and to also be honest about the ways in which you are blocking love from supporting you – through relationships that drain you or by letting fear keep your heart from reaching out and receiving the love you need to do your great work and live your great life.

Christine Arylo and Noah Martin

Think of any dream you have and the reason you aren’t living it now. Somewhere in there will be a belief about how you can’t do it because you don’t have the $ money or the time. But if you wait for when you have the extra $ or time you think you need to live your dream, you will be too old to enjoy it!  When you choose to grow your LOVE WEALTH – you will create around you the support, security and resources you need to live your dream now.

The only reason I could sell my house and my car, and become a spiritual gypsy, traveling around the world not knowing always where I would live or sleep was because of the massive LOVE WEALTH that surrounded me – in the form of soul family whose house I always had a place… in the form of ‘strangers’ that became new  fast friends and miraculously had beautiful homes they needed watched or lived in… in the form of spiritual mentors who had done walkabouts before and lent their hand to me to help me steady in the moments I got scared… to the big hunk of man I married that helped keep me grounded and feeling safe as I slept in 20 different beds in two months this spring. Love wealth.

Now I offer you the choice to expand your love wealth and let it come in to support you and your dreams to FLY!

Watch the divine spark that I taped for you above and then tapping into all this love energy. I invite you to take the following action here on the self-love blog – Noah and i will witness your stand for love together and super charge your choice to let love support your dreams.

ONE:  Feel the love wealth you have.   “I feel so much love from…

TWO:  See where you are blocking love from coming in to support you to fly.  “I am blocking love by…

THREE: Open your heart and take one bold action to remove the block and let love flow in so you and your heart desire can soar. “I choose to open my heart to love by…

Okay I will go first…

“I feel so much love from Noah, my spiritual mentors and my beloved soul sisters Anne, Shiloh and Christine and my goddess daughters Lucie and Janey who always meet me with love… I am blocking love by not reaching out to ‘celebrities’ who are also embracing the self love message so we can connect and power up self love even more – like Katie Perry, Elizabeth Gilbert, Indie Arie – because my Inner Mean Girl tells me I would be bugging them. I choose to open my heart to love, by reaching out to these three light beams and telling them how much I appreciate their work and also ask for their support in self love day and my new book – yikes!”

Now your turn to post here on the self love blog… One… you feel so much love from… Two… you are blocking love by…. Three… your bold action — open up to love baby and FLY! Noah and I are standing by to witness you and share our special love mojo with you 🙂

Self Love Promise: Never Settle for Less than Your Heart and Soul Desire

One of the five foundational self love promises is to NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR HEART AND SOUL DESIRE… are you keeping this promise to yourself?

Watch this video and press pause on the outside world to tune into your inner world and do a check in with your heart.

Most of us never slow down enough to truly tune into our hearts so we have no idea what it truly desires. And sometimes when we do know what it desires we are too scared to actually admit that we desire it. We feel selfish, like it’s too much. Or we feel like it’s impossible or impractical so we just stuff the desire down and get on with our rational lives, settling for less than our heart desire, and in the process letting ourselves down, which is so not self-loving.

The self-love truth is that if you can FEEL it in your heart, then desiring it can only be a good thing that creates more goodness and more love for the world. Even if it’s big. Even if it seems alot. Even if other people have judgments about it.

The test is to make sure the desire truly comes from your heart and soul, and not your ego, which NEEDS and WANTS things to make you feel safe, enough and like you belong.

How do you do name and claim your heart desire?

Well to start…

1. Watch the video and listen to your heart
– and let my words touch your heart, and then listen to what it tells you – you may be surprised!

2. Two, when you state your desire out loud and write it down so you can see it use the words “I DESIRE” instead of I WANT –
want denotes lack, like you are not whole without this thing. And when acting in alignment with your heart, you’ve got to do it from a place of you are whole already. For example, saying “I want to be famous” (ego) is different than “I desire to shine as bright as I can, to be the star I am, so that my love and expression can light up this world. I desire to be a shining star whose light people from around the world see and are inspired by.” Or saying, “I want a soul mate so I can be loved” is saying that you are not loved already, which you are. Instead, you may very well desire a partner to share your life with, so “I desire a partner to share my full life with” denotes you already know your life is full before he/she shows up.

And…

3. After you watch this video – claim your current heart’s desire… then EXCLAIM in here, right here on the self-love blog… I will be here to witness it and you and fill it up with the love and light of the full moon!

Me first…
“My heart and soul SO desire to create a fabulous, inspiring line of self-love clothing that millions of people around the world put on their body that reminds them every time they wear it that they are SOOOOOO loved.”

Okay your turn… post it here… and then keep your self love promise to open your heart to receive it. You don’t need to know how or when, you just have to be open to receive the love in whatever expression the divine has in store for you.

You have done enough

Are You Pushing Yourself Too Hard?

Where you pushing yourself too hard… and creating unhappiness for yourself? Watch the video and reset your expectations – what would be enough??

You have a goal. Something important to you. Something you said yes to creating, doing, achieving because you believed it would make you happy. And so you go on your way to making that goal a reality, and then something shifts. You realize consciously or maybe not consciously that to reach said goal, you are going to have to push yourself to make it. Work hard. Cancel dates. Put pressure on yourself. And the thing you were doing to make you happy is now making you unhappy.

I’ve been doing this all week with my upcoming book about reforming Inner Mean Girls – pushing myself to get it all done in the next four days even though it’s not due for 6 more weeks. Uh, I think my Inner Mean Girl has been hanging on the couch with me!!

The truth is that while there are moments we need to push hard, those should be few and far between.

Your main way of operating your life should NOT be pushing yourself so hard.

Not if you are working in alignment with what is truly best for you, and what the divine had in store for you.

Why does it happen then? You make up these mental pictures or thoughts in your mind about what you should be able to do, and how fast you should be able to do it. And then push hard to get there. But what if… instead of pushing hard and driving yourself to what you think you should be able to do, you stopped, reassessed and did ENOUGH.

No more. No less. Just enough.

My friend Sam Bennett, who wrote this great book called GET IT DONE – without having to exhaust yourself to do it! – calls this going for the “C” instead of the A++ — which my achiever has a really hard time with. But my Inner Wisdom knows is spot on.

To make this work for me, I apply self love and my mantra I AM ENOUGH by asking myself the powerful question,”What would enough look like?” And then I give myself permission to do that. I can’t do the C but I can do ENOUGH!

Today I share it with you so you can stop pushing yourself so hard! And reclaim your happiness around the thing you decided to do to make happiness!!

Watch the video and then here on the blog, ask yourself the question, “WHAT WOULD ENOUGH LOOK LIKE?” and then take your self-love enoughness stand
1. I am pushing myself too hard to…
2. Enough would look like…
3. I give myself permission to …
4. And then claim it THAT IS ENOUGH!!

I’ll go first:
I am pushing myself too hard to finish all 9 chapters of my book in the next four days, even though the manuscript isn’t due for 6 more weeks. Enough would look like me having 6 chapters done really well and tight so I don’t have to go back to them. I give myself permission to only complete 6 chapters before I leave my writing retreat, trusting that all will be done in divine timing. THAT IS ENOUGH!

Now your turn! Post here on the blog…

And remember you are invited to join me to really take make this a YEAR OF ENOUGHNESS — to break habits that keep you from the compassion, care, pleasure, all that good self love. You can join me at the Love Club for a year of self-love! Check it out, www.JoinTheLoveClub.com

you are enough

Please Stop Stressing Yourself Out! Find the pressure point you’re holding on yourself

Watch this video to find the ONE BIG GNARLY PRESSURE POINT you are holding on yourself, and then follow me through a process to release it. Then share your stand with me on the blog

Two days ago, sitting on a couch talking to one of my soul sisters, Christine Hassler, about this crazy pressure I was feeling even though I was sitting in one of the most serene beautiful places on earth 100 feet from the sea, I had a HUGE epiphany about what is causing you, me and every woman (and man) I know un-needed stress.

Stress that you literally have the ability to alleviate if you know where to look, how to find the pressure point causing you unnecessary pain, running that judgmental voice in your head who loves to push you and pressure you with words like…

“You should be doing more…”

“Why aren’t you…”

These two phrases alone I am sure are behind the wrinkles,the extra weight, the facts that 1 in 4 women will die of heart disease, twice as many women than men are on anti-depressants, or the reality that most of us feel overwhelmed and exhausted a lot of the time.

So in honor of the international day of women this month, I am saying ENOUGH to this I am not enough b.s. … I am saying NO to Not-Enoughness and declaring 2014 as the Year of ENOUGHNESS.

Wanna join me?

mantra self love enough

Declare here, right now that You are enough. That you’ve done enough. That you don’t have to pressure yourself to do more? That there are other, more self-loving ways, to motivate yourself?

Good! Now that we have that cleared up, What do you do???

Well you start by watching this week’s love letter… I will run you through the short but mighty process I used to identify the big gnarly pressure point causing undue stress on me, and show you how to find your gnarly unnecessary pressure point and release it.

Then, here on the blog, release the pressure point by 1. Saying how you are putting this pressure on yourself. 2. Telling the truth AND then 3. Take a stand for being and doing enough right now (in caps!) I will witness you, as if you are right here with me on the couch – making this a year of ENOUGHNESS!

Here I will go first.

I am putting pressure on myself to be out in the world speaking right now. The truth is that I am exactly where I need to be, writing at the sea and talking to people through the internet and phone right now. I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

Okay your turn…

I am putting pressure on myself to…
The truth is…
I AM DOING ENOUGH RIGHT NOW. I AM ENOUGH.

Whoo hoo!! Can’t wait to high five you and your post.

And remember, if you want more support on sticking to this, and you still haven’t joined The Love Club, you can still join for the entire year at the special year rate but only through the end of March. www.JointheLoveClub.com xoxox