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Support Yourself Not Sacrifice Yourself – Give Your Inner Super Woman Some Self Compassion

This self love blog post is a permission slip for you to do the best you can, and trust it’s enough… it’s an 11 minute mSelf Compassion Mantra by Christine Aryloeditation I made with Karen Drucker that’s featured on my Self Love Meditation Album that has the super power to shift your internal experience from self-criticism and judgment to self-compassion … and take the pressure off.

Go here to listen to the Self Compassion meditation, take the pressure off, throw the stress to the side and find your way to a solution that supports you not sacrifices you. (or use the player below to tune in).

 

And then post up here on the self love blog the self love stand you are taking to release the pressure and the self compassionate act you are taking …. I’ll add some special self love super power to your post to support you.

I’ll show you how I did this for myself.

1. First, be honest about where in your life you feel the pressure to do more, have it all done, do it all yourself, or squeeze more in?

Christine Arylo Invicible Super Woman

The Invincible Super Woman Inner Mean Girl makes an appearance!

For me, I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure leading up to the book release of my new book Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself. For the six weeks leading up to the book release and book launch party, I navigated it all pretty well (thanks to daily yoga and a great support team). But after the book launch party, I had a serious attack by my “Invincible Super Woman” Inner Mean Girl who almost sent me into a complete meltdown this weekend. (That’s me acting her out at our workshop… little did I know she’d be coming for a personal visit!!!)

The Invincible Super Woman Inner Mean Girl is the one who makes you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, and you have to do it all yourself. She’s the one who makes you feel like you have to do it all, right now, perfectly. And when you follow her guidance, you end up exhausted, resentful and feeling unsupported.

Sound familiar?

So how was she bullying me, and how might she be bullying you? On Friday, the day before the new moon, after five weeks of intense work to release the new book, after throwing a major event for the book launch party, after traveling, coming home to mentor four women, lead an intense full day divine feminine workshop, spend two days taping the audio version of the new book and prepare for two-days of intensive yoga teacher training on Saturday and Sunday, I was feeling IMMENSE PRESSURE to get this divine spark and self love blog to you – because my promise is to send you a divine spark on the new moon and full moon (the new moon was Saturday).

This IMG was bullying me by telling me I had to do the letter by Saturday, and I had to make you a video, and she was all over me for not being able to get it all done (she did not care that what I needed was a nap, a bath and some space for me, or that I was about to do 24 hours of yoga in 2 days).

2. Second, you have to make the choice to release the stress. And be honest, would you like a remedy for all that stress? If yes, make the choice by stating….

I choose to release the pressure to …  I choose to trust that..

For me it was releasing the pressure to get this blog and divine spark done by the new moon by trusting that if the space wasn’t there, there would be a better space to do so.

I choose the self-compassionate act to….

3. Third, choose the self-compassionate choice.

Choose to make your choices from self compassion instead of self imposed deadlines #BeKind2U (Shareable)

For me, after my Inner Wisdom got  me to my yoga mat where I did an 11-minute meditation (I often take my IMGs to my mat where they are rendered powerless!) I could  hear the loving self compassionate truth, “Just do the best you can, and trust it’s enough.” And that meant, releasing the need to get this to you by the weekend. And instead to wait until Monday, after my yoga training, sleeping in, a fabulous breakfast with Noah my guy, coming to my favorite Venice Beach coffee shop, sipping a latte and writing this to you. So much more compassionate and me so much happier!

Now your turn…post your self compassion stand

  1. I choose to release the pressure to…
  2. I choose to trust that…
  3. I choose the self compassionate act to…

Here’s mine… I choose to release the pressure to get this blog posted and to you by the new moon Saturday.
I trust that there will be a better time and space for you to receive this and for me to create this.
I choose the self compassionate act to release any and all feelings of obligation and instead to on Monday when I do have space, write you this from my happy heart!

Post your self compassion stand here…. I will reply with a witness and super power self love prayer! Sending you support to give yourself the SPACE you need to be supported, be sustained and feel successful without all the pressure.

And..If you haven’t gotten your copy of the Reform Your Inner Mean Girl book to start transforming your Inner Mean Girls – go here. www.InnerMeanGirlBook.com (you will also get a special Inner Wisdom Kit with a download of the self compassion meditation you can put on your itunes or electronic devices to listen to any time!)

Inner Mean Girl Book

To get a copy of the full self love meditation CD with 11 tracks for each of the branches of self-love, including self-care, self-trust, self-esteem and more – go here.

Start Your New Year Devoted to Yourself … 3 questions to make goals that make you happy

Watch this video & get the 3 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE – its a new year self-love meditation!

It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.

I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, even with my 11 year old goddess daughter – she loved it!

The game is based on 3 core questions that help you connect to what YOU truly desire to do, so you create a year devoted to your happiness and success instead of creating more stress for yourself, or creating goals that just make it so you have more to do!

Here are the inquiries… tune into your heart and ask:

1. What do I desire to START?
2. What do I desire to STOP?
3. Who do I desire to CONTINUE?

Then to bring these to life take a stand to devote this year to YOUR HAPPINESS and SUCCESS!

STATE HERE ON THE SELF LOVE BLOG 

“In Devotion to MYSELF,” in 2015, I choose to START… STOP… CONTINUE…

Here’s mine….

In 2015, In devotion to myself, I choose to…

START writing thought provoking, heart opening articles that shine a light on the tremendous amount of pressure we all feel… and to shine a light on a new way of being that is more sustainable for us all.

STOP working through the beautiful sunsets right out side my door – they are too beautyful to miss!

CONTINUE creating self-love art that I love and that opens other peoples hearts

Now your turn… post it here on the blog.

IN DEVOTION TO MYSELF, I CHOOSE TO
START…
STOP…
CONTINUE…

**POST IT UP AND I’LL SEND YOU SOME EXTRA SELF LOVE SUPER POWER AND PRAYERS!**

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Self-Love Spark: Feeling left out or rejected? Heal your heart with this.

Transmute the feelings of abandonment, rejection, and being uninvited with this video from the Divine Heart and My Heart to yours!

I don’t think there is a one of us who hasn’t had our heart hurt because we felt excluded – not invited to the party, the dinner, the project, the meeting, the whatever. And when that happens, doesn’t it feel like you are 7 years old again and you didn’t get invited to sit at the cool kids table. Ouch. Rejection hurts

Heart hurt girl

 

In the past few weeks I’ve had moments when I have felt left out and it really hurt. And I saw so clearly how I had the power to either get mad and blame others and keep the hurt going OR… choose to mother those tender parts in myself, reject the story of being abandoned or excluded and look for evidence of more love.

It wasn’t easy but I chose to reject rejection!

You see, if you don’t transform the dark parts inside your heart that have been hurt, they just keep operating under the surface, driving you to be passive aggressive, resentful, and dark goo eeks out all over your relationships, choices and thoughts – creating the opposite of what you want, which is love. But when you pause, tap into this full moon love energy, and transmute the hurt into love, you become free and you can actually create more loving relationships and release those abandonment triggers.

From a spiritual perspective, you can’t really be rejected anyway, even though that’s what it feels like at the time.

Often what appears like rejection is just the Divine’s way of redirecting you to what is better for you. It’s your attachment to where that love and inclusion comes from that creates the suffering and feelings of rejection.

 

In the moment, when we feel left out or rejected, we owe it to ourselves to acknowledge the little part of us that is hurt, and then respond from the EMPOWERED part of us who has options, and who does not give their love power – the feeling of being loved and like you belong – away to anyone. The BEST three empowered acts you can take the next time you feel left out is lean in to love by:

  1. Other-love... Invite yourself to whatever it is, without attachment to whether they say yes or no
  2. Self-Love… Ask yourself what YOU want to do and do that – you don’t need others to feel loved.
  3. Divine-love.. Ask the Divine what it wants to do with you, what it’s trying to lead you to instead that is even better for you.

You have the power to reject rejection too, but you have to be willing to release the rejection story and see the divine truth.

And from a human heart perspective, you still need someone to witness the hurt so you can let it go and open up the space to see Divine Love’s hand who is just trying to move you to more grace!
 

So today, here on the self-love blog, I invite you to post up your heart hurt from feeling rejected, uninvited or left out. Just let yourself be 7 years old. Then change the story! And I will send that part of you LOTS OF LOVE!

 

1. My heart hurt… (name the rejection starting point)
2. I told myself … (name the story you told yourself about it)
3. The truth is that.. (take your love power back and state the truth from a place of self authority)

 
I will go first:

My heart hurt when some of my best friends were involved in a project that they didn’t invite me to be part of.
I told myself that they were excluding me.
The truth is that me not being included doesn’t mean they don’t love me. And that the Divine is guiding me to other projects that are even better for me

 

Now Your Turn..

My heart hurt…
I told myself..
The truth is…

 
And if you want more support and guidance on creating the happiest relationships of your life – not easy – but possible when you really truly take your love power back, check out the 40 Day Choosing ME before WE practice at http://www.choosingmebeforewe.com

Great Mother Love Meditation – When life is too much, do this.

Watch this Great Mother Love video and meditation & surrender what’s weighing on your heart

I don’t know why we think when we grow up that we are supposed to be all strong, and have it all together. That when we become parents or responsible adults that we won’t get scared or confused. That when life is hard we should just buck up and push through, instead of doing what a little kid would do – have a little cry, wrap up in a blankie, and ask it’s mom to make it all better with a kiss, a hug and her magic wand.

Now that’s what I am talking about – Great Mother Love.

We all need it, yet most of us have no idea how to get it.

You need Great Mother Love in the times when life feels like it’s too much… like it’s is too hard… like there’s not enough… like the burden is just too heavy… like you might even want to give up and quit.

From a spiritual perspective, these intense times are all good. It just means the shadow is coming up to be healed and transmuted into light. But from a human perspective, while you are wading through the shadow, no matter how much light is promised at the end of the tunnel, what you really want to do is crawl into bed, wrap the covers over you and come out when it’s all over?

But you can’t. People need things from you, you have to go to work, all that stuff that’s contributing to the stress in the first place!

So what can you crawl into and wrap yourself up with? Great Mother Love! Great Mother Love, when you tune into it and open to receive it is like receiving a big huge hug and kiss from the divine, or the best mother that you could ever imagine who has the power to take it all away and make it better… a place where you can just lay your head on her shoulder and let it all go… and SURRENDER all that you don’t want to carry any longer.

So how do you get to this Great Mother Love? Well that’s what this video, meditation and surrender stuff is all about.

Let’s alleviate some of this fear, doubt, stress, anxiety shall we and get you connected to Great Mother Love, shall we?

Follow these steps.

1. Watch the divine spark video I taped for you, which includes the Great Mother Love meditation

2. Give over to her what you want to surrender right now. The burden, responsiblity, fear, anxiety, and be specific. Really give it to her and let her heart take the weight off your heart.

3. Post your SURRENDER PRAYER up here on the self-love blog “I SURRENDER… And I will post back and witness and super charge your prayer.

4. Open up to receive Great Mother Love from all the places and people it shows up through, including yourself. Great Mother Love feels like caring, nurturing, embracing, sweetness, nourishing, warm, unconditional, empty of all fear. Include it in your post by saying “I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING GREAT MOTHER LOVE!)

Here’s my surrender prayer to the Great Mother

I SURRENDER THE RESPONSIBILITY OF BEING THE ONE IN MY FAMILY THAT HAS TO FIGURE IT ALL OUT, TO BE THE ONE WHO MAKES SURE ITS ALL TAKEN CARE OF AND WE HAVE EVERYTHING WE NEED. I AM TIRED OF TAKING IT ALL ON AND I SURRENDER THIS BURDEN! TAKE IT GREAT MOTHER. I AM OPEN TO RECEIVING YOUR GREAT MOTHER LOVE.

Okay now your turn! Post on the self-love blog

Really let the energy flow and FEEL IT as you write it – remember it’s your surrender prayer, let it go and open up that heart to great mother love, let her divinity take on what your humanity could never hold.