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Support Yourself Not Sacrifice Yourself – Give Your Inner Super Woman Some Self Compassion

This self love blog post is a permission slip for you to do the best you can, and trust it’s enough… it’s an 11 minute mSelf Compassion Mantra by Christine Aryloeditation I made with Karen Drucker that’s featured on my Self Love Meditation Album that has the super power to shift your internal experience from self-criticism and judgment to self-compassion … and take the pressure off.

Go here to listen to the Self Compassion meditation, take the pressure off, throw the stress to the side and find your way to a solution that supports you not sacrifices you. (or use the player below to tune in).

 

And then post up here on the self love blog the self love stand you are taking to release the pressure and the self compassionate act you are taking …. I’ll add some special self love super power to your post to support you.

I’ll show you how I did this for myself.

1. First, be honest about where in your life you feel the pressure to do more, have it all done, do it all yourself, or squeeze more in?

Christine Arylo Invicible Super Woman

The Invincible Super Woman Inner Mean Girl makes an appearance!

For me, I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure leading up to the book release of my new book Reform Your Inner Mean Girl: 7 steps to Stop Bullying Yourself and Start Loving Yourself. For the six weeks leading up to the book release and book launch party, I navigated it all pretty well (thanks to daily yoga and a great support team). But after the book launch party, I had a serious attack by my “Invincible Super Woman” Inner Mean Girl who almost sent me into a complete meltdown this weekend. (That’s me acting her out at our workshop… little did I know she’d be coming for a personal visit!!!)

The Invincible Super Woman Inner Mean Girl is the one who makes you feel like the weight of the world is on your shoulders, and you have to do it all yourself. She’s the one who makes you feel like you have to do it all, right now, perfectly. And when you follow her guidance, you end up exhausted, resentful and feeling unsupported.

Sound familiar?

So how was she bullying me, and how might she be bullying you? On Friday, the day before the new moon, after five weeks of intense work to release the new book, after throwing a major event for the book launch party, after traveling, coming home to mentor four women, lead an intense full day divine feminine workshop, spend two days taping the audio version of the new book and prepare for two-days of intensive yoga teacher training on Saturday and Sunday, I was feeling IMMENSE PRESSURE to get this divine spark and self love blog to you – because my promise is to send you a divine spark on the new moon and full moon (the new moon was Saturday).

This IMG was bullying me by telling me I had to do the letter by Saturday, and I had to make you a video, and she was all over me for not being able to get it all done (she did not care that what I needed was a nap, a bath and some space for me, or that I was about to do 24 hours of yoga in 2 days).

2. Second, you have to make the choice to release the stress. And be honest, would you like a remedy for all that stress? If yes, make the choice by stating….

I choose to release the pressure to …  I choose to trust that..

For me it was releasing the pressure to get this blog and divine spark done by the new moon by trusting that if the space wasn’t there, there would be a better space to do so.

I choose the self-compassionate act to….

3. Third, choose the self-compassionate choice.

Choose to make your choices from self compassion instead of self imposed deadlines #BeKind2U (Shareable)

For me, after my Inner Wisdom got  me to my yoga mat where I did an 11-minute meditation (I often take my IMGs to my mat where they are rendered powerless!) I could  hear the loving self compassionate truth, “Just do the best you can, and trust it’s enough.” And that meant, releasing the need to get this to you by the weekend. And instead to wait until Monday, after my yoga training, sleeping in, a fabulous breakfast with Noah my guy, coming to my favorite Venice Beach coffee shop, sipping a latte and writing this to you. So much more compassionate and me so much happier!

Now your turn…post your self compassion stand

  1. I choose to release the pressure to…
  2. I choose to trust that…
  3. I choose the self compassionate act to…

Here’s mine… I choose to release the pressure to get this blog posted and to you by the new moon Saturday.
I trust that there will be a better time and space for you to receive this and for me to create this.
I choose the self compassionate act to release any and all feelings of obligation and instead to on Monday when I do have space, write you this from my happy heart!

Post your self compassion stand here…. I will reply with a witness and super power self love prayer! Sending you support to give yourself the SPACE you need to be supported, be sustained and feel successful without all the pressure.

And..If you haven’t gotten your copy of the Reform Your Inner Mean Girl book to start transforming your Inner Mean Girls – go here. www.InnerMeanGirlBook.com (you will also get a special Inner Wisdom Kit with a download of the self compassion meditation you can put on your itunes or electronic devices to listen to any time!)

Inner Mean Girl Book

To get a copy of the full self love meditation CD with 11 tracks for each of the branches of self-love, including self-care, self-trust, self-esteem and more – go here.

Start Your New Year Devoted to Yourself … 3 questions to make goals that make you happy

Watch this video & get the 3 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE – its a new year self-love meditation!

It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.

I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, even with my 11 year old goddess daughter – she loved it!

The game is based on 3 core questions that help you connect to what YOU truly desire to do, so you create a year devoted to your happiness and success instead of creating more stress for yourself, or creating goals that just make it so you have more to do!

Here are the inquiries… tune into your heart and ask:

1. What do I desire to START?
2. What do I desire to STOP?
3. Who do I desire to CONTINUE?

Then to bring these to life take a stand to devote this year to YOUR HAPPINESS and SUCCESS!

STATE HERE ON THE SELF LOVE BLOG 

“In Devotion to MYSELF,” in 2015, I choose to START… STOP… CONTINUE…

Here’s mine….

In 2015, In devotion to myself, I choose to…

START writing thought provoking, heart opening articles that shine a light on the tremendous amount of pressure we all feel… and to shine a light on a new way of being that is more sustainable for us all.

STOP working through the beautiful sunsets right out side my door – they are too beautyful to miss!

CONTINUE creating self-love art that I love and that opens other peoples hearts

Now your turn… post it here on the blog.

IN DEVOTION TO MYSELF, I CHOOSE TO
START…
STOP…
CONTINUE…

**POST IT UP AND I’LL SEND YOU SOME EXTRA SELF LOVE SUPER POWER AND PRAYERS!**

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Self Care for the New Year – Set Yourself Up to Be Happy & Healthy Now (Dont Wait til Jan!)



I have a question for you – what if you could start the new year, come Jan 1st, feeling better about your body, feeling good about your bank account balance and feeling energized and full, ready to welcome in the coming year (true self care)? Would this be way better than feeling stressed about losing weight, paying off debt and getting things in order after a crazy holiday season?

What if you could make choices NOW that ensured a happy and healthy start of 2015 so you didn’t have to make news years resolutions that you don’t keep?

You can avoid all those extra pounds, all that extra stress and all that guilt about spending too much if you just take a few self-love, self-care steps now.

I taped this divine spark for your heart, about 40 days before the new year, before we roll into the holiday season, so you can do just that.

So watch the video and consider taking on the simple but mighty self-love practice I share with you that can make all the difference to how you feel come Jan 1st.

My holiday wish for you is that you can end this year with a SURPLUS of energy, health (physical and financial) and happiness instead of in a defecit in which you feel like you have to make up for all the EXCESS spending, eating, traveling,etc. you did.


And that means over the next 40 days or so til Jan 2nd – I invite you to do two things…

ONE: ONLY DO ENOUGH… CHOOSE ENOUGH INSTEAD of EXCESS:
In the moments when you feel the stress or pressure rising, or you feel yourself about to make a choice that doesn’t honor your needs, note you are about to choose EXCESS, and instead ask yourself, ‘What would enough be?” And do that!
This will allow you to still have sweetness and pleasure without tipping over the scales or draining your bank account or energy accounts. For example: Instead of 5 sugar cookies, 1. Instead of 50 greeting cards, 10. Instead of visiting every relative, a few. Instead of 10 boxes of holiday decorations, 2.

Really love, just do enough and LEAVE THE EXCESS BEHIND… you’ll feel so much better. And have more fun!


TWO: TUNE INTO YOUR HEART AND GET CLEAR ABOUT WHAT IS MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU THIS HOLIDAY SEASON

In the Divine Spark for your Heart video, I taped a short but mighty meditation to help you tune into the 3 things that are most important for YOU. Often the reason you end up in excess, spending too much time and money and over consuming is that you aren’t connected to or clear about what really matters to you. Take this short pause to ask your heart what is and then make a promise to make your choices accordingly for the rest of the year… no matter what. True self care … Keeping the promises of self-love to never settle for less than your heart desires, and to STAY TRUE TO YOURSELF even if that means disappointing another.

THREE: POST UP YOUR HEART’S 3 DESIRES HERE ON THE BLOG WITH YOUR PROMISE TO SET YOURSELF UP TO BE HEALTHY AND HAPPY AS YOU START THE NEW YEAR BY CHOOSING ENOUGH NOT EXCESS AND BY STAYING TRUE TO YOURSELF!

I will send special love to you and your self love stand here on the blog – a holiday gift from my heart to yours.

Here, I will go first…
“I choose to set myself up to be happy and healthy as I end 2014 and start 2015.
My heart desires to
1. Have plenty of space to rest.
2. Have plenty of space to create.
3. To spend time with the people that I am closest to.
I promise myself to CHOOSE ENOUGH, INSTEAD OF EXCESS.”

Okay – now your turn. Post here on the blog your promise to set yourself up to be happy and healthy… and your three heart’s desires for this holiday season.. ending with the promise to choose enough, not excess. I’ll come by with some love later!

Self-Love Spark: Feeling left out or rejected? Heal your heart with this.

Transmute the feelings of abandonment, rejection, and being uninvited with this video from the Divine Heart and My Heart to yours!

I don’t think there is a one of us who hasn’t had our heart hurt because we felt excluded – not invited to the party, the dinner, the project, the meeting, the whatever. And when that happens, doesn’t it feel like you are 7 years old again and you didn’t get invited to sit at the cool kids table. Ouch. Rejection hurts

Heart hurt girl

 

In the past few weeks I’ve had moments when I have felt left out and it really hurt. And I saw so clearly how I had the power to either get mad and blame others and keep the hurt going OR… choose to mother those tender parts in myself, reject the story of being abandoned or excluded and look for evidence of more love.

It wasn’t easy but I chose to reject rejection!

You see, if you don’t transform the dark parts inside your heart that have been hurt, they just keep operating under the surface, driving you to be passive aggressive, resentful, and dark goo eeks out all over your relationships, choices and thoughts – creating the opposite of what you want, which is love. But when you pause, tap into this full moon love energy, and transmute the hurt into love, you become free and you can actually create more loving relationships and release those abandonment triggers.

From a spiritual perspective, you can’t really be rejected anyway, even though that’s what it feels like at the time.

Often what appears like rejection is just the Divine’s way of redirecting you to what is better for you. It’s your attachment to where that love and inclusion comes from that creates the suffering and feelings of rejection.

 

In the moment, when we feel left out or rejected, we owe it to ourselves to acknowledge the little part of us that is hurt, and then respond from the EMPOWERED part of us who has options, and who does not give their love power – the feeling of being loved and like you belong – away to anyone. The BEST three empowered acts you can take the next time you feel left out is lean in to love by:

  1. Other-love... Invite yourself to whatever it is, without attachment to whether they say yes or no
  2. Self-Love… Ask yourself what YOU want to do and do that – you don’t need others to feel loved.
  3. Divine-love.. Ask the Divine what it wants to do with you, what it’s trying to lead you to instead that is even better for you.

You have the power to reject rejection too, but you have to be willing to release the rejection story and see the divine truth.

And from a human heart perspective, you still need someone to witness the hurt so you can let it go and open up the space to see Divine Love’s hand who is just trying to move you to more grace!
 

So today, here on the self-love blog, I invite you to post up your heart hurt from feeling rejected, uninvited or left out. Just let yourself be 7 years old. Then change the story! And I will send that part of you LOTS OF LOVE!

 

1. My heart hurt… (name the rejection starting point)
2. I told myself … (name the story you told yourself about it)
3. The truth is that.. (take your love power back and state the truth from a place of self authority)

 
I will go first:

My heart hurt when some of my best friends were involved in a project that they didn’t invite me to be part of.
I told myself that they were excluding me.
The truth is that me not being included doesn’t mean they don’t love me. And that the Divine is guiding me to other projects that are even better for me

 

Now Your Turn..

My heart hurt…
I told myself..
The truth is…

 
And if you want more support and guidance on creating the happiest relationships of your life – not easy – but possible when you really truly take your love power back, check out the 40 Day Choosing ME before WE practice at http://www.choosingmebeforewe.com