Welcome to Your Stay S.t.r.o.n.g Self-Love Kit!
Here you’ll find a self-love kit dedicated to supporting you to make more self-loving choices all year – so you can choose Love – you know compassion, care, respect, pleasure –for yourself instead of fear, criticism, guilt, shame and pressure!Follow the steps I’ve laid out for you…
- Take the Self Love Pulse Check and Choose the Branch of Self-Love you will strengthen this year
- Create your 2018 Self Love Promise that will help you strengthen that branch and stay strong in your commitment to stay true to yourself, no matter what
- Take the Self Love Promise
STEPS 4-5: Receive Support to Keep Your Self Love Promise & strengthen your ability to making loving choices for yourself this year (including this year’s official Self Love Song, Poem and Poster!!)
Step #1: Take a Self-Love Pulse Check
Where are you strong in self-love, and where are you weak?
Your mission — to determine WHICH branches of Self-Love MOST need your attention this year. And then choose 1 branch that you will focus on strengthening this year.
We choose one branch every year, because what we focus on grows. How do you do choose which area of self-love is ready to get stronger?
Choose one of 3 ways below –
self-guided or I’ll guide you or the full self-love assessment!
Using the breakthrough ‘self-love technology ‘ from the best-selling self-love book that has been called “an Illuminated pat to loving yourself” – Madly in Love with MEthe Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend – let’s see what branches of self-love are strongest and which are weakest for you right now… remember self-love is something you grow and nurture every day, not something you achieve.
Self-Awareness & Honesty *
Self-Compassion & Forgiveness *
Self-Respect & Self-Honor *
ONE: SELF GUIDED –Use the illustration of the self-love tree to choose your branch for this year. Look at each of the branches as if you were looking at a real tree, and notice what branches feel under nourished, unkempt or just plain ignored! And notice which branches are strong, full of abundance and life force. Rate each branch on a strength scale of 1 -10 – rating each for their strength in your life and inside of you. With this rating scale:
- 10 – SUPER STRONG. You feel really connected to and strong in this aspect of self-love, like you can make choices in your daily life that feed that branch, and align with it, no problem.
- 5 – NEEDS ATTENTION. This branch needs some attention or else you and it and you will be in big trouble. If you don’t know what strength level a branch is, it’s probably around 5! .
- 1 – NEGLECTED. This branch is so weak that you think it might possibly be dead (it’s not, don’t worry!)
Print out the poster or draw the tree yourself and write the numbers right on the tree.
Or you can reference page 55 in the book Madly in Love with ME, the Daring Adventure to Becoming Your Own Best Friend.
Go here to get just an image of the Self Love Tree.
TWO. LET ME GUIDE YOU! I taped this Self-Love Tree meditation that will take you through the entire Self-Love Tree to find the branches that need strengthening. And I’ll get you started on defining your self love promise.
Go here to take the Self Love Quiz ONLINE – It’s Free – www.SelfLoveQuiz.com
Or download an audio version of the Self Love Promise Meditation here.
Once you know your branches of self-love needing to be strengthened, you ready to choose a self love promise that will strengthen your ability to make self honoring, self loving choices for yourself.
THREE. TAKE THE SELF LOVE ASSESSMENT – this 100-question assessment measures the strength of each branch of self-love as well as provides you with an overall self-love strength indicator. We’ve tested this assessment with hundreds of people and have been doing research on it, so that we can use it to support therapists, counselors, teachers, and more. We have found so far that the assessment measures each of the branches very well and also provides a good overall self love indicator.
Taking this comprehensive test in free, in exchange that your results will be included in our overall study (anonomyous of course). We ask for some general information to help us in our research like age, gender and race. We will never share this, promise. We only ask for your email and name when you sign up for the assessement so that we can send you your results via email.
Step #2: Create Your Self-Love Promise
Okay, now it’s time to create a promise or a set of promises to yourself – promises that will give you the WORDS YOU NEED TO HEAR IN THE MOMENT SO YOU CAN CHOOSE THE LOVING ACT, THOUGHT or FEELING for yourself.
Just like a best friend would do for you in moments when you feel doubt, fear, judgment, shame, blame, you will say this Self Love Promise to yourself to give yourself PERMISSION to choose the self-loving act over the self-neglect, self-criticism, self-doubt, etc.
- If your branch is Self-Expression, your promise might be: “I will be myself, even if others don’t like it.”
- If your branch is Self-Pleasure, your promise might be: “No matter how much work there is to do, I make time for fun!”
- If your branch is Self-Care, your promise could be: “I take care of myself first, without guilt.”
- If your branch is Self-Trust, your promise could be: ” I will listen to and follow the guidance of my Inner Wisdom even when it’s scary.”
- If your branch is Self-Respect, your promise could be: “I only have loving, respectful relationships.”
- If your branch is Self-Acceptance, your promise could be: “I love my <insert body part> exactly as it is right now.”
There is definitely an art to making and taking self-love promises, which I’ve written an entire chapter on in the Madly in Love with ME book. If you have the book, refer to Chapter 14, if you have not gotten your copy yet of Madly In Love with ME, here’s the chapter which you can download and read.
Step #3: Make Your Self-Love Promise
This is not a passive adventure. Just like you would make a promise to another person, to make it real, you have to MAKE this promise with yourself in a tangible way.
Taking your promise is as simple as:
1. Make your promise VISUAL
2. Make your promise VERBAL
VISUAL: Write your promise out so you can see it. We made you a piece of “Heart Art” where you can write your vow/vows down and then have this to refer to again and again throughout the year. As you write out the words, it will help you find the words that really resonate with you, in your heart on the inside.
VERBAL –Once you have the promise, say it outloud, with intention and commitment, so you can feel it in your body. Make any adjustments needed to make the promise really feel powerful and resonant. Once you have the words that feel true for you, SPEAK & REPEAT the vow 3x to yourself – with your hand on your heart, so the promise gets in there. For more power, do it in front of a mirror. Speak slowly, pause between each repetition.
Step #4: Receive Inspiration
Every year we choose a Self Love Poem, Song and Poster to give you support and inspiration to make self-loving choices! Enjoy this heart art.
The Self Love Song – COMING FROM JEN BLOOM
The Self Love Poem “You are SO Much More Than Enough” – by Shiloh Sophia McCloud
Shiloh Sophia McCloud is a visionary artist and transformational poet whose words ignite the soul fire inside — freeing your heart to paint the legend of your life, to stand as the queen or king of your own domain and choose the life you want to live, and then have the audacity and boldness to live it. True self empowerment and self expression! Her poem was chosen to remind you of the choice you have to believe that you are enough, right now, and to create your life accordingly.
(excerpt from You Are So Enough, a poem from the book Tea with The Midnight Muse)
You Are So Much More Than Enough
You think you are not enough
and so that means what you do
is never enough. I think the story
“I am not enough” is a lie.
I am wondering
why we, intelligent, lovely, brave
souls that we are,
would go on believing a lie?
So today is a day for miracles
for shedding old stories
and I am wondering
who is ready to shed that one?
Ready. Set. Let’s Go.
And when you are done with that
you can join us in inventing a new story.
One where you choose yourself
right now right where you are
regardless of your circumstances.
One where we choose to tell the truth
about ourselves to ourselves
and to others.
And Watch Christine Arylo & Shiloh performing this poem – let your Inner Critic hear these words!
SELF COMPASSION POSTER by Christine Arylo & Shannon Kaiser
Self Compassion is one of the weakest branches most people have. Self Compassion is being kind, gentle, patient and understanding with yourself.
One of the Self Love Practices we teach at The Path of Self Love School, is the Love Mantra and the Inner Wisdom Two-Step.
In the moments you find yourself being hard on yourself, criticizing yourself, pressuring yourself, blaming or judging yourself, or just feeling down on yourself, take a Love Mantra from this poster, put your hand on your heart and say the mantra to yourself. Or just keep it around as preventative self love care, and say your promise and a mantra to yourself every morning – we call this a Self Love Soak.
These Love Mantras were created by students in our Path of Self Love Foundations class, where each month they practice, experience and strengthen one branch of self love in their day to day lives.
Step 5: Receive Support to Strengthen Your
Foundation of Self Love
You are invited to join us for a Year of Self Love.
So glad that we are connected!
Our promise as the best self love school on the planet is to be here to support you to strengthen your inner foundation and ability to make choices that keep you true to yourself.
As a school, we offer courses, programs, retreats, and symposiums on specific topics we believe can help people love themselves, love others and teach others, including their children, how to love themselves in real, tangible ways.
We are more than a school, we have a mission to create a world in which every child born is born connected to love and stays connected to love, because they know how to source love from within.
What you can expect from us is a monthly BOOST OF LOVE delivered to your inbox – that includes simple ways to strengthen your self love, information on our upcoming programs, and stories that will open your heart (we can all use more heart opening these days!)
We look forward to support you to choose LOVE, in all ways, and cultivate the inner strength to take care of and stay true to yourself, no matter what.
In devotion to love,
Founder of The Path of Self Love School, Best Selling Author of Choosing ME Before WE, Madly in Love with ME, and Reform Your Inner Mean Girl
To contact our school, you can email us at Love@PathofSelfLove.org
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