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Stop Comparing Yourself To Others – Self-love super power practice

As I was writing my new self-love book on that super duper destructive force known as the Inner Mean Girl, or Inner Mean Dude, this week, I got SUPER inspired to write you a self love letter and make you a video about one of the most toxic, non-self loving habits we have as humans…

COMPARISON!

I’ve been watching people all around me, fabulous people, comparing themselves to other people, or who they think they should be, and then feeling like crap about themselves… and then making choices that don’t honor themselves.

And it makes me so sad every time I see a person reject themselves…

Because when you compare your body, bank account, business, relationship status, whatever, to others (or some crazy expectation), the truth is, you reject yourself… and it doesn’t take a brain scientist to prove that rejecting yourself is no good.

Comparing yourself to others will slow you down, steal your joy, and rob you of the life you are trying to create for yourself … and c’mon you just don’t have time to tolerate that anymore, especially given it’s the summer of love ☺

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And I get it… I used to compare myself A LOT. I think most of us do. We just don’t talk about it, or stop it. So the cycle continues.

Which is why today, I invite you to stop this crazy insane habit of comparison using the self love super power process and self acceptance perspective I provide in the video.

Because really, you are too beautiful, too special, too lovable to commit such an act on yourself. Being you is awesome, when you love yourself enough to believe it.

So take this daring act of self love

  1. Watch the video and make the choice to GIVE UP THE HABIT OF COMPARISON (just like you’d give up smoking or eating food that is bad for you.)
  2. Take the self-love antidote of turning comparison into self-love through inspiration that I share with you and use it in your life everytime you find yourself craving to compare
  3. Here on this Blog, right now, take a RADICAL ACT OF SELF ACCEPTANCE and say specifically WHAT you will stop comparing yourself about.

Here’s a few heart self-love starters

I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING THE SIZE OF MY THIGHS TO OTHER PEOPLE’S LEGS.

I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING THE SIZE OF MY FACEBOOK FAN PAGE TO OTHER PEOPLES’ FAN PAGES.

I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING HOW I AM DOING IN MY LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S ACCOMPLISHMENTS.
And then for good self love mojo, you can say this self acceptance Love Mantra outloud or write it here on the blog.

I LOVE WHO I AM EXACTLY AS I AM. I AM MYSELF. AND THAT IS ENOUGH.

 

You can learn more about Inner Mean Girl Reform School at www.innermeangirl.com and get a free transformation starter kit too!

21 thoughts on “Stop Comparing Yourself To Others – Self-love super power practice

  1. imaduddin

    Thank you so much…i m comparing my self since 10 years. I dnt no why i m comparing my self with other . Its hard to ignore many times i tried but i faild and insulted my self…but now really i need to introduce my seif….

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  2. Holly Rodgers Jordan

    Christine, I laughed and felt such joy as I watched this video. I spent time this morning comparing myself to someone who I admire… And I was feeling bad about me. And then this came to my facebook page and my intuition said, “Listen to this Holly” and voila, I realize that what I admire about this person is her professionalism and her confidence and guess what? I have professionalism and confidence too! It might not look the same as hers but I have it. LOVE, LOVE, LOVE you!

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  3. Mim

    I Needed this today! After a rough few days with my boyfriend telling me how much I’ve changed over the last almost 2 years, I Promise to not compare the status of my relationships to what I perceive others’ relationships to be. I am me and I love who I am. I am enough! I do Enough, I have enough!

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  4. Aram Tchobanian

    Christine — YOU are inspiring!! I had the joy of meeting you in person when you came to New York this spring. At that meeting and in every one of your videos, I am blown away by your consistently effective way of presenting easy, simple steps toward self-love and acceptance. It always brings a smile to my face and joy to my heart to watch and listen to what you have to say — thank you for so bravely putting yourself out in front of the rest of us to show that it CAN be done!!

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Aram – my heart is here in California smiling and receiving your love! Thank YOU for the love and for being willing to LOVE YOURSELF so fiercely. Love that we are connected, in love. xo Christine

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Marci! Yes of course – my mean patty wowzer!! you can start by getting the Inner Mean Girl Transformation Kit – http://www.innermeangirl.com — and stay tuned in late august for the Inner Mean Girl home study course- til then join us at The Love Club this month where we are taking that big stand for self acceptance – http://www.JointheLoveClub.com im here xoxo Christine

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  5. Elsa

    Beautiful, thank you. I have ben mean to me for a very long time and look forward to learning how to love myself. Thank you for your help and sharing.

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Elsa – HAPPY to help you choose LOVE over judgment, shame, blame and all that inner mean girl b.s — however I can help – xoxo Christine

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      LOVE sharing the love bits on how to give up comparison! seeing you love that comparison queen right out of her power!! xo

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  6. Kavita

    Dear Christine,
    Lovely video with a LOVELY message as always 🙂
    I usually find it very easy to compliment people when I see something good in them. It makes me feel good. On a few occasions though, when I did that, the person I complimented saw that as an opportunity to make themselves feel better than me & made some negative comment about me in return. Do you have any suggestions on how to handle situations like that?
    Thanks a lot. Xoxo

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Hi Kavita – two things to think about 1. check in with yoruself to see if you are trying to get something from people when you give them a compliment – if you were it is probably subconscious and could be why you are attracting such buggers in your interactions, they are reflecting something for you and 2. it could be that what they are reflecting is for you to shift your relationships and be honest about who people are in your life – and that you have people in your inner Love Rings that don’t belong there. Good love lesson here for you – and remember YOU ARE LOVED! xoxo

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Thank you Tracy – yes as i was talking about them i was like uh oh i have no idea what kind of flowers these are 🙂 Lol.

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  7. Kim

    Wonderful technique, Christine – “You inspire me!” “I admire your exuberance and honest expression!” I see you in me and me in you!
    I heard another good one – when you see something you want in another’s possession (fancy car, fancy lover, lottery win…), say “Me, too!” or something like that (instead of “why not me?”)

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Kim – thanks for the add on!!! love it. and love that you took the dare right here in posting back to me. I am honored to be inspiring love in you. xo

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  8. Samantha

    Thanks so much for sharing this, Christine. I’ve been comparing myself to others for YEARS, ever since I was a child and it’s something I still struggle with almost every day. So, I’ll take your dare and accept myself and end this comparison “game”. It’ll be hard, but worth it.
    Thanks again! YOU are an inspiration 🙂

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    1. carylo17 Post author

      Samantha you are in good company with giving up comparison this month – over 200 of us in the love club are doing the same! I KNOW YOu can do it! BIG XOXO

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