Watch this video – and imagine a world in which you – and every woman, man and child you knew, loved themselves.
And join us for the Self Love Day Super Power Circle and take a stand to give up negative self talk this year… and choose self-love talk! Take a stand to give yourself the love you need, no matter what. Go here to RSVP for the livestream or get the recording later. www.SelfLoveDay.com
What if you could give up negative self-talk? Watch this self-love divine spark for your heart
Here’s the straight self-love truth..
Just like giving up any negative toxic habit – like biting your finger nails, smoking, or eating junk food – you can CHOOSE to not be a negative self-talker.
I took the stand to give up the negative chatter 6 years ago, and it changed my entire life. It wasn’t that the self doubt, self criticism, self-induced stress disappeared completely – although it did diminish ALOT! That crazy mind buzz just no longer controlled me, derailed me, drove me to make bad choices for myself.
First, I had to make the choice. I had to get to the point in my life and in my relationship with myself where I had had ENOUGH! Where I was sick and tired of the effects the negative self-talk was having on me. Wasting my energy. Making me feel bad and like I wasn’t doing enough no matter how much I did. Pressuring me to work more, work harder, or making me feel guilty if I took a break. Leading me to sell myself out or disregard my needs in order to make another person happy. It was exhausting. And I just decided it was stupid to do this to myself. So just like I had quit smoking at the age of 30, and quit having toxic relationships at the age of 31, and quit drinking diet pop at the age of 35, I figured, why not quit negative self talk. So I did. And it stuck!
How did I give up negative self-talk?
Well to start, any time I found myself in a negative self talk situation, I would just say outloud I GAVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK… I DON’T DO THIS ANYMORE! And I would say it out loud again and again – as if I was literally talking to myself, and I was! I was telling that inner force who wields that heavy hard hand – I call her the Inner Mean Girl, or Inner Mean Dude for boys – that I was no longer a negative self-talker. Just like I was no longer a smoker, so if someone offered me a cigarette, I could decline because I just didn’t smoke. Or I could choose ice tea at lunch instead of diet pop, because I wasn’t a diet pop drinker.
So today, I am inviting YOU to make that first step by CHOOSING TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK. To quit being a negative self-talker and to choose to be a supportive self-love talker instead!
GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK, CHOOSE SELF LOVE #BKIND2U
Which leads us to the second part of the process of giving up negative self-talk – you need self love super power tools.
Like I said, it wasn’t that it just went away completely, so I had to develop new ways to deal with the negative banter when it came up. A simple one is the one I mentioned above… You just simply say outloud as many times as you need “I don’t do this negative self-talk thing any longer! I am just doing it! I choose supportive self-love talk!”
Then to get the supportive self-love talk moving through your mind, here’s what you do — put your hand on your heart… close your eyes and take a breath… and ask yourself, “What are the words I need to hear right now? If I was being a best friend to myself, what would I say?” And then say those words to you, starting with your first name (you always have to start with your first name) … FIRST NAME, << the words your heart needs to hear so it can then inform your mind to settle down and be supportive and kind to you! >>.
Let’s try it here on the BLOG so you can practice – and I will super power your post with more self-love talk!
1. EXPOSE THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK – where is fear, doubt, pressure, stress, criticism showing up for you?
2. TAKE THE STAND TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK & CHOOSE SELF LOVE TALK – “I choose to give up negative self talk!” “I choose to embrace supportive self love talk!”
3. WRITE THE SELF LOVING WORDS YOU NEED TO HEAR FROM YOURSELF! I call this a ‘love stream’
I will go first —
I’ve been having a little negative self talk pressuring me into some of my old achievement junkie patterns, eating up the spaciousness and harmony I need in my life.
I, Christine Arylo, CHOOSE TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK. I CHOOSE TO EMBRACE SELF LOVE TALK.
Love stream… Christine, you are doing enough! You are doing more than enough. You can have all the spaciousness you need to enjoy your life, walk on the beach, do your yoga, have fun and serve a billion people love. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself. In fact the more love you choose for yourself, the more harmony you will create and the more people you will touch.
Okay, now your turn…. be real about where the negative chatter is showing up … take the promise to give up negative self talk… love stream out the words you need to hear from yourself! Post here on the self-love blog….
And then remember to use your self love super power tool – the SELF LOVE SOAK – every morning by telling yourself the words you need to fill your heart with love, to choose supportive self love talk first thing in the morning before you ever get out of bed!
>>AND JOIN US ON SELF LOVE DAY – FEB 13th – live in Los Angeles or via Livestream in your home! For the Self Love Super Power Circle –
where thousands of people will band together to give up negative self talk! SIGN UP AT WWW.SELFLOVEDAY.COM<<
Watch this video & get the 3 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE – its a new year self-love meditation!
It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.
I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, even with my 11 year old goddess daughter – she loved it!
The game is based on 3 core questions that help you connect to what YOU truly desire to do, so you create a year devoted to your happiness and success instead of creating more stress for yourself, or creating goals that just make it so you have more to do!
Here are the inquiries… tune into your heart and ask:
1. What do I desire to START? 2. What do I desire to STOP? 3. Who do I desire to CONTINUE?
Then to bring these to life take a stand to devote this year to YOUR HAPPINESS and SUCCESS!
STATE HERE ON THE SELF LOVE BLOG
“In Devotion to MYSELF,” in 2015, I choose to START… STOP… CONTINUE…
In 2015, In devotion to myself, I choose to…
START writing thought provoking, heart opening articles that shine a light on the tremendous amount of pressure we all feel… and to shine a light on a new way of being that is more sustainable for us all.
STOP working through the beautiful sunsets right out side my door – they are too beautyful to miss!
CONTINUE creating self-love art that I love and that opens other peoples hearts
Now your turn… post it here on the blog.
IN DEVOTION TO MYSELF, I CHOOSE TO
**POST IT UP AND I’LL SEND YOU SOME EXTRA SELF LOVE SUPER POWER AND PRAYERS!**
Transmute the feelings of abandonment, rejection, and being uninvited with this video from the Divine Heart and My Heart to yours!
I don’t think there is a one of us who hasn’t had our heart hurt because we felt excluded – not invited to the party, the dinner, the project, the meeting, the whatever. And when that happens, doesn’t it feel like you are 7 years old again and you didn’t get invited to sit at the cool kids table. Ouch. Rejection hurts
In the past few weeks I’ve had moments when I have felt left out and it really hurt. And I saw so clearly how I had the power to either get mad and blame others and keep the hurt going OR… choose to mother those tender parts in myself, reject the story of being abandoned or excluded and look for evidence of more love.
It wasn’t easy but I chose to reject rejection!
You see, if you don’t transform the dark parts inside your heart that have been hurt, they just keep operating under the surface, driving you to be passive aggressive, resentful, and dark goo eeks out all over your relationships, choices and thoughts – creating the opposite of what you want, which is love. But when you pause, tap into this full moon love energy, and transmute the hurt into love, you become free and you can actually create more loving relationships and release those abandonment triggers.
From a spiritual perspective, you can’t really be rejected anyway, even though that’s what it feels like at the time.
Often what appears like rejection is just the Divine’s way of redirecting you to what is better for you. It’s your attachment to where that love and inclusion comes from that creates the suffering and feelings of rejection.
In the moment, when we feel left out or rejected, we owe it to ourselves to acknowledge the little part of us that is hurt, and then respond from the EMPOWERED part of us who has options, and who does not give their love power – the feeling of being loved and like you belong – away to anyone. The BEST three empowered acts you can take the next time you feel left out is lean in to love by:
Other-love... Invite yourself to whatever it is, without attachment to whether they say yes or no
Self-Love… Ask yourself what YOU want to do and do that – you don’t need others to feel loved.
Divine-love.. Ask the Divine what it wants to do with you, what it’s trying to lead you to instead that is even better for you.
You have the power to reject rejection too, but you have to be willing to release the rejection story and see the divine truth.
And from a human heart perspective, you still need someone to witness the hurt so you can let it go and open up the space to see Divine Love’s hand who is just trying to move you to more grace!
So today, here on the self-love blog, I invite you to post up your heart hurt from feeling rejected, uninvited or left out. Just let yourself be 7 years old. Then change the story! And I will send that part of you LOTS OF LOVE!
1. My heart hurt… (name the rejection starting point)
2. I told myself … (name the story you told yourself about it)
3. The truth is that.. (take your love power back and state the truth from a place of self authority)
I will go first:
My heart hurt when some of my best friends were involved in a project that they didn’t invite me to be part of.
I told myself that they were excluding me.
The truth is that me not being included doesn’t mean they don’t love me. And that the Divine is guiding me to other projects that are even better for me
Now Your Turn..
My heart hurt…
I told myself..
The truth is…
And if you want more support and guidance on creating the happiest relationships of your life – not easy – but possible when you really truly take your love power back, check out the 40 Day Choosing ME before WE practice at http://www.choosingmebeforewe.com