Category Archives: Self-Empowerment

Start Your New Year Devoted to Yourself … 3 questions to make goals that make you happy

Watch this video & get the 3 questions to ask your heart and soul so you create a year you LOVE – its a new year self-love meditation!

It can be hard to hear your heart and soul – it can feel daunting, and you can get stuck in your brain real fast. And you can also short circuit yourself because of fear. Which is why I invented this AWESOME LOVE FILLED GAME for finding your Heart & Soul Goals, and creating a year motivated by LOVE not pressure, fear or lack.

I’ve been playing this game all week — with Noah, at dinner with friends, even with my 11 year old goddess daughter – she loved it!

The game is based on 3 core questions that help you connect to what YOU truly desire to do, so you create a year devoted to your happiness and success instead of creating more stress for yourself, or creating goals that just make it so you have more to do!

Here are the inquiries… tune into your heart and ask:

1. What do I desire to START?
2. What do I desire to STOP?
3. Who do I desire to CONTINUE?

Then to bring these to life take a stand to devote this year to YOUR HAPPINESS and SUCCESS!


“In Devotion to MYSELF,” in 2015, I choose to START… STOP… CONTINUE…

Here’s mine….

In 2015, In devotion to myself, I choose to…

START writing thought provoking, heart opening articles that shine a light on the tremendous amount of pressure we all feel… and to shine a light on a new way of being that is more sustainable for us all.

STOP working through the beautiful sunsets right out side my door – they are too beautyful to miss!

CONTINUE creating self-love art that I love and that opens other peoples hearts

Now your turn… post it here on the blog.



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Sustain Don’t Drain Yourself… a self care practice to transform the things that drain you

Yes, you want to take care of yourself. Yes, you want your life to feel in balance, in harmony. You want to feel vital, strong, and cared for. You know self care is good. Yet there are many things that can come into your ‘field’ (your body, mind, emotions, relationships, life) that drain your resources (time, energy, money, peace, life force)… and you simply can’t afford to have these things depleting you.

Self care is making sure that YOU receive what you need. Self care requires you never serve from your reserves. Which means you need to SUSTAIN not DRAIN your energy.

How? Well watch this self love spark I taped for YOUR HEART, to slow down, and take a look at your ‘field’ to see what is draining you. Be honest. Your life force depends on it.

I taped this video for you on the equinox, which is all about balance. It literally is the mid point between the solstices, and it’s a time to take stock of the field you’ve planted (think agriculture and growing crops which is a metaphor for the field and crop of your life each year.) And as you take stock of your personal field, your life, this is the time to choose to harvest what will sustain you over the winter and choose to compost that which is draining or no longer nurturing.

So, as you watch this video, really tune into yourself and honestly answer these two questions…


This could be relationships, jobs, situations, ways you work, finances, anything really. Don’t hold back. Be honest with yourself. Even if that means admitting your job, your kids, your whatever are draining you. Because once you can be honest about the drain, you can see the ways in which you can transform the drain into something that sustains you or at the very least stops draining you. And here’s the other thing to note – something that once sustained you could now drain you, and it’s up to you to see when that balance shifts, and then love yourself enough to respond to new circumstances and make the shifts inside of yourself and your life to create a most sustainable life.

Empower yourself to take care of yourself, right here on the self love blog, with these three steps …


ONE – “What currently drains me is… ” (admit and name one, be specific so you can see the drain)

TWO – “It also sustains me by...” (there’s some way it does give to you, and you want to keep this because  it’s supportive)

THREE – And then make your self care claim…


and then i will witness you!


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Here i will go first.

“One…What currently drains me is having to figure out where Noah and I are going to be living, where home will be, because of our spiritual gypsy lifestyle. It drains me because I have to keep reorienting my energy to the new space,  to other people’s space, so I never feel quite settled in myself. Two… It also sustains me by allowing me to travel to be wherever spirit guides me, or wherever I want to be, because I don’t have a mortgage or home or pets to take care of. Three… I CHOOSE TO SUSTAIN MYSELF NOT DRAIN MYSELF!”

(Note: This gypsy lifestyle has been perfect for me the last 17 months since I sold my home and Noah and I took to the road. And now, at equinox, as the seasons shift, it’s time for something new, because it’s draining me more than sustaining me. And now that I can see the pieces that drain and sustain I can make shift happen.)

So love… what is ready to shift for you ? What stand will you take to SUSTAIN not DRAIN yourself.  Write it here on the self love blog, your stand for self care… what drains me… what sustains me…

Self Love Promise: Never Settle for Less than Your Heart and Soul Desire

One of the five foundational self love promises is to NEVER SETTLE FOR LESS THAN YOUR HEART AND SOUL DESIRE… are you keeping this promise to yourself?

Watch this video and press pause on the outside world to tune into your inner world and do a check in with your heart.

Most of us never slow down enough to truly tune into our hearts so we have no idea what it truly desires. And sometimes when we do know what it desires we are too scared to actually admit that we desire it. We feel selfish, like it’s too much. Or we feel like it’s impossible or impractical so we just stuff the desire down and get on with our rational lives, settling for less than our heart desire, and in the process letting ourselves down, which is so not self-loving.

The self-love truth is that if you can FEEL it in your heart, then desiring it can only be a good thing that creates more goodness and more love for the world. Even if it’s big. Even if it seems alot. Even if other people have judgments about it.

The test is to make sure the desire truly comes from your heart and soul, and not your ego, which NEEDS and WANTS things to make you feel safe, enough and like you belong.

How do you do name and claim your heart desire?

Well to start…

1. Watch the video and listen to your heart
– and let my words touch your heart, and then listen to what it tells you – you may be surprised!

2. Two, when you state your desire out loud and write it down so you can see it use the words “I DESIRE” instead of I WANT –
want denotes lack, like you are not whole without this thing. And when acting in alignment with your heart, you’ve got to do it from a place of you are whole already. For example, saying “I want to be famous” (ego) is different than “I desire to shine as bright as I can, to be the star I am, so that my love and expression can light up this world. I desire to be a shining star whose light people from around the world see and are inspired by.” Or saying, “I want a soul mate so I can be loved” is saying that you are not loved already, which you are. Instead, you may very well desire a partner to share your life with, so “I desire a partner to share my full life with” denotes you already know your life is full before he/she shows up.


3. After you watch this video – claim your current heart’s desire… then EXCLAIM in here, right here on the self-love blog… I will be here to witness it and you and fill it up with the love and light of the full moon!

Me first…
“My heart and soul SO desire to create a fabulous, inspiring line of self-love clothing that millions of people around the world put on their body that reminds them every time they wear it that they are SOOOOOO loved.”

Okay your turn… post it here… and then keep your self love promise to open your heart to receive it. You don’t need to know how or when, you just have to be open to receive the love in whatever expression the divine has in store for you.

Self Empowerment Blog: How to Make Your Dreams Come True

There’s a lot of misunderstandings about dreams that can mess up your manifesting. Watch this video & get the divine download on how dreams really do come true. Choose self empowerment, choose self-love.

I have some questions for you love…

What is your Sacred Dream for the World?

What is your Sacred Dream for Yourself this year?

And are you going about dreaming in the ‘right’ way?

I used to think that dreams happened in the future, that I had to pursue them, manifest them, make them happen, or just get lucky. And that caused a lot of pressure, disappointment and frankly hard work.

There is SO much misunderstanding about how dreams really work — information telling you to make vision boards, to apply the Law of Attraction, to manifest your soul mate or more money in simple 7 steps, or whatever as if dreams are some magic trick that pop out of a hat. As if you just have the right thoughts and focus hard enough, you’ll get exactly what you want. And it just doesn’t work that way.

It’s not that the Law of Attraction, or vision boards or desiring a soul mate or money is incorrect, it’s the energy, the ego, and the attachment, and the partial truths and over-simplification that lead to misunderstandings that can lead you into a lot of disappointment, stress, and pressure around your dreams becoming your reality.

Self Love quoteSo when I thought about what I could share with you this week – as I myself dream and watch my sacred dream for the world and for myself come true – I knew I had to share 3 pieces of wisdom that can straighten out misunderstandings about dreams and manifesting … so the divine flow can move through you. Self empowerment is all about being the queen or king of your own domain, and being the monarch of your own dreams (with a divine partnership of course!)

With right understanding about sacred dreams, I’ve watched my dream to co-create a world rooted in self-love, where children and adults can always source love from inside themselves grow… from one party in a friend’s house in Chicago in 2006 to the international Self-Love Day – Feb 13th – which last year touched over 41 countries, tens of thousands of people with 800 people throwing self-love parties… a self-love concert we video-streamed around the world … and super-powered self-love retreats… all of which we will be occurring again this year (and you are invited!!!)

Watch this Love Letter video and clear the way for your sacred dream for the world and for yourself this year to come in. And then put Self Love Day on your calendar and choose how you will participate this year!

Post your Sacred Dream For the World and Your Sacred Dream for Yourself for this year, here and I’ll witness, bless it and send you divine love.

Here, I’ll start — ‘My sacred dream for the world is that we live in a world in which every child born is born connected to love and stays connected to love – never losing the thread of love or the feeling that they are loved.” “My sacred dream for myself in 2015 is that I live in a home that is a beautiful, spacious, love filled retreat home AND that I travel the world sharing the message of love and experiencing the love and beauty this world and its people have to offer.”

Okay, now your turn… post here now.

And remember — I’d LOVE to see you in Wine Country for the Self Love Retreat… it was SO Much fun last year that we are doing it again! Go to

And also… you can host a self love circle yourself in your home!! This year we are taking a stand to END NEGATIVE SELF TALK! Go here to sign up – we will send you a complete Self Love Circle Kit! and you  join a legion of Love Ambassadors who are starting a revolution to end negative self talk and choose self love talk! Think how much happier we will all be!.