Watch this video – and imagine a world in which you – and every woman, man and child you knew, loved themselves.
And join us for the Self Love Day Super Power Circle and take a stand to give up negative self talk this year… and choose self-love talk! Take a stand to give yourself the love you need, no matter what. Go here to RSVP for the livestream or get the recording later. www.SelfLoveDay.com
What if you could give up negative self-talk? Watch this self-love divine spark for your heart
Here’s the straight self-love truth..
Just like giving up any negative toxic habit – like biting your finger nails, smoking, or eating junk food – you can CHOOSE to not be a negative self-talker.
I took the stand to give up the negative chatter 6 years ago, and it changed my entire life. It wasn’t that the self doubt, self criticism, self-induced stress disappeared completely – although it did diminish ALOT! That crazy mind buzz just no longer controlled me, derailed me, drove me to make bad choices for myself.
First, I had to make the choice. I had to get to the point in my life and in my relationship with myself where I had had ENOUGH! Where I was sick and tired of the effects the negative self-talk was having on me. Wasting my energy. Making me feel bad and like I wasn’t doing enough no matter how much I did. Pressuring me to work more, work harder, or making me feel guilty if I took a break. Leading me to sell myself out or disregard my needs in order to make another person happy. It was exhausting. And I just decided it was stupid to do this to myself. So just like I had quit smoking at the age of 30, and quit having toxic relationships at the age of 31, and quit drinking diet pop at the age of 35, I figured, why not quit negative self talk. So I did. And it stuck!
How did I give up negative self-talk?
Well to start, any time I found myself in a negative self talk situation, I would just say outloud I GAVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK… I DON’T DO THIS ANYMORE! And I would say it out loud again and again – as if I was literally talking to myself, and I was! I was telling that inner force who wields that heavy hard hand – I call her the Inner Mean Girl, or Inner Mean Dude for boys – that I was no longer a negative self-talker. Just like I was no longer a smoker, so if someone offered me a cigarette, I could decline because I just didn’t smoke. Or I could choose ice tea at lunch instead of diet pop, because I wasn’t a diet pop drinker.
So today, I am inviting YOU to make that first step by CHOOSING TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK. To quit being a negative self-talker and to choose to be a supportive self-love talker instead!
GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK, CHOOSE SELF LOVE #BKIND2U
Which leads us to the second part of the process of giving up negative self-talk – you need self love super power tools.
Like I said, it wasn’t that it just went away completely, so I had to develop new ways to deal with the negative banter when it came up. A simple one is the one I mentioned above… You just simply say outloud as many times as you need “I don’t do this negative self-talk thing any longer! I am just doing it! I choose supportive self-love talk!”
Then to get the supportive self-love talk moving through your mind, here’s what you do — put your hand on your heart… close your eyes and take a breath… and ask yourself, “What are the words I need to hear right now? If I was being a best friend to myself, what would I say?” And then say those words to you, starting with your first name (you always have to start with your first name) … FIRST NAME, << the words your heart needs to hear so it can then inform your mind to settle down and be supportive and kind to you! >>.
Let’s try it here on the BLOG so you can practice – and I will super power your post with more self-love talk!
1. EXPOSE THE NEGATIVE SELF TALK – where is fear, doubt, pressure, stress, criticism showing up for you?
2. TAKE THE STAND TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK & CHOOSE SELF LOVE TALK – “I choose to give up negative self talk!” “I choose to embrace supportive self love talk!”
3. WRITE THE SELF LOVING WORDS YOU NEED TO HEAR FROM YOURSELF! I call this a ‘love stream’
I will go first —
I’ve been having a little negative self talk pressuring me into some of my old achievement junkie patterns, eating up the spaciousness and harmony I need in my life.
I, Christine Arylo, CHOOSE TO GIVE UP NEGATIVE SELF TALK. I CHOOSE TO EMBRACE SELF LOVE TALK.
Love stream… Christine, you are doing enough! You are doing more than enough. You can have all the spaciousness you need to enjoy your life, walk on the beach, do your yoga, have fun and serve a billion people love. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself. In fact the more love you choose for yourself, the more harmony you will create and the more people you will touch.
Okay, now your turn…. be real about where the negative chatter is showing up … take the promise to give up negative self talk… love stream out the words you need to hear from yourself! Post here on the self-love blog….
And then remember to use your self love super power tool – the SELF LOVE SOAK – every morning by telling yourself the words you need to fill your heart with love, to choose supportive self love talk first thing in the morning before you ever get out of bed!
>>AND JOIN US ON SELF LOVE DAY – FEB 13th – live in Los Angeles or via Livestream in your home! For the Self Love Super Power Circle –
where thousands of people will band together to give up negative self talk! SIGN UP AT WWW.SELFLOVEDAY.COM<<
Watch this video & acknowledge yourself for how much you have already done so you can start your year from a place of feeling ENOUGH!
I am seeing an epidemic going on that I think you might be afflicted by. And as you set out to create your dreams and go for your soul goals, I thought you might want to see if this is true for you (so we make sure you don’t create undue stress and pressure for yourself)…
You have a goal or a dream.
A project. Something you want to create or cause.
Or even just the things you want to get done it a day.
You put energy, time, money, love towards them.
And you reach goal. You finish the project. Reach the milestone.
You have what should feel success.
But somehow the feeling of success and accomplishment doesn’t last very long.
Maybe for a day or a few hours, you feel like wow, that happened. And then almost as if you get concked on the head you come down with amnesia … you forget how awesome you are, how much you’ve already accomplished, how what you wanted is actually occurring… you don’t celebrate or let yourself really RECEIVE what’s happened, all you can see is how much more you need to do. This is why of course, what you do rarely feels like it’s enough.
I call this Achievers Amnesia and so many people I know suffer from this. Even people in the public eye that you know and would think, ‘She is so successful’… in afflicted by this achievers amnesia.
Here’s truth love, this pattern of achievers amnesia creates stress, exhaustion and unhappiness for you… and you give so much to what you care about – be that your work, your loved ones, your body, your community, the world, that I am taking a stand as your self-love sister to make sure YOU APPRECIATE and ACKNOWLEDGE YOURSELF all the way through this year. Self Acceptance is grown by Appreciating, Acknowledging and Adoring yourself.
Watch this week’s love letter, take the daring act of love, and then make sure to put Feb 13th, Self-Love Day your calendar (i have a special invitation for you!)
Watch the video and then take the daring act of love to APPRECIATE and ACKNOWLEDGE YOURSELF by posting your ILOVEME list of 5 things you Choose to recognize yourself for.
I acknowledge myself for becoming a more kind person… for healing so many of my love cracks… for trusting the divine to guide my life and taking big acts of faith… for doing yoga every day for the past 90 days… for receiving a great book contract to write my next book which I am so excited to write. Ahhhh. that feels good!
Now your turn… post your five acknowledgements here and I’ll reflect them to you so you can feel them even more…
As I was writing my new self-love book on that super duper destructive force known as the Inner Mean Girl, or Inner Mean Dude, this week, I got SUPER inspired to write you a self love letter and make you a video about one of the most toxic, non-self loving habits we have as humans…
I’ve been watching people all around me, fabulous people, comparing themselves to other people, or who they think they should be, and then feeling like crap about themselves… and then making choices that don’t honor themselves.
And it makes me so sad every time I see a person reject themselves…
Because when you compare your body, bank account, business, relationship status, whatever, to others (or some crazy expectation), the truth is, you reject yourself… and it doesn’t take a brain scientist to prove that rejecting yourself is no good.
Comparing yourself to others will slow you down, steal your joy, and rob you of the life you are trying to create for yourself … and c’mon you just don’t have time to tolerate that anymore, especially given it’s the summer of love ☺
And I get it… I used to compare myself A LOT. I think most of us do. We just don’t talk about it, or stop it. So the cycle continues.
Which is why today, I invite you to stop this crazy insane habit of comparison using the self love super power process and self acceptance perspective I provide in the video.
Because really, you are too beautiful, too special, too lovable to commit such an act on yourself. Being you is awesome, when you love yourself enough to believe it.
So take this daring act of self love
Watch the video and make the choice to GIVE UP THE HABIT OF COMPARISON (just like you’d give up smoking or eating food that is bad for you.)
Take the self-love antidote of turning comparison into self-love through inspiration that I share with you and use it in your life everytime you find yourself craving to compare
Here on this Blog, right now, take a RADICAL ACT OF SELF ACCEPTANCE and say specifically WHAT you will stop comparing yourself about.
Here’s a few heart self-love starters
I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING THE SIZE OF MY THIGHS TO OTHER PEOPLE’S LEGS.
I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING THE SIZE OF MY FACEBOOK FAN PAGE TO OTHER PEOPLES’ FAN PAGES.
I PROMISE TO STOP COMPARING HOW I AM DOING IN MY LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S ACCOMPLISHMENTS. And then for good self love mojo, you can say this self acceptance Love Mantra outloud or write it here on the blog.
I LOVE WHO I AM EXACTLY AS I AM. I AM MYSELF. AND THAT IS ENOUGH.
You can learn more about Inner Mean Girl Reform School at www.innermeangirl.com and get a free transformation starter kit too!